You haven't improved your outlook at all. If you did, there would be far less of these types of posts from you. Actions are worth more than words. How about you do something to improve how you feel ~ worry about results later. Your goal should be to feel less like you currently do even when there is no woman in your life. Nothing more. One step at a time.
At this point, are you concerned about finding a life-mate, or just dating and having some fun? Whether or not it's a great idea, you'd do well for yourself to get out a bit and get your confidence up.
He's just making excuses over excuses.
I know. He's scared to try. It hasn't sunk in yet, that a rejection isn't the end of the world, it's an opportunity to find one that's more suited to him.
I`d be nice if you could come up with something new to justify why you shouldn`t do something.
Oh, I already said I was going to try but I was listing why I'll probably fail.
Get those books!
Soon enough. At least, once I finish the stuff I've already checked out (hate returning books unread).
What did you check out