HIA is so fucking OLD. MY GOD. HE TYPES LIKE MY FATHER
Slowly????![]()
LOL yeah... love it when my wife leaves her glasses on.![]()
LOL...... this turning into a Penthouse Forum.
Actually, I started seeing a therapist about 1.5 weeks after the breakup. Granted, there were some personal family problems and hospital crap thrown into the mix that pushed me to see one sooner than later, but seeing a therapist is a VERY good idea for anyone who may seem lost or confused. Often times there's development to be made in ourselves that is hard to see without the help of a professional.
Question for you guys: When I start dating again, what is your opinion about when to disclose that my daughter has chronic medical issues? It's such a major factor in my life, that it seems I should be very direct about it, especially since the possibility of another neurosurgery is a factor.
On the other hand, it's not as though she is disabled, needing constant care, or walks about drooling. To an outsider, she looks like a normal, healthy, pretty teenager.
The thing is, I don't want to attract people who are too soft to be supportive. (This was a major issue between her father and me.) Likewise, I don't want to scare away a decent man, either.
Edited to add: I am very conservative about who I will introduce my kids to (overly protective?), so it's not like I would be asking anyone to come over to babysit. lol
Last edited by vashti; 24-12-12 at 10:18 PM.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
if you find yourself going on several dates, then I would say it's time to disclose your daughter's situation. The first date is too soon and waiting months is too long.
It would be obvious to bring it up when things seem to start to have direction. I would say at about the 3rd or 4th date to "tell" them about it. Then if things do get serious, then introduce them to the kids. Some wait 6 months into a relationship before introducing them to their kids......this would be really taking your time making sure they are the right person to have in your life. Maybe taking your time might be key.
But why worry about it now, just date and enjoy yourself. Be single for awhile.
Don't think it needs to be everyone's business, but it should be brought up if things start moving. But as smackie says - why worry about it right now?