Originally Posted by
HeartIsAching
Your job isn't who or what you are, it isn't your life - it's what you do to pay for your life. Your partner IMNHSO is much more important.
The romantic in me agrees with HIA, but the pragmatist says: forward, but with caution.
I live in Vancouver, Canada. Currently considered the most expensive city *in the world* to live in, when you factor living/housing cost to earnings ratio. The whole region has undergone a boom in population in the last decade with retirees and asian immigration that has made the job market here extremely competitive. Highly-qualified people who have no problem finding work elsewhere are competing for jobs here with many taking positions for much less income than they would get elsewhere. Plus, global economy issues have hit here also. Many of those retirees are still in the workforce (so you have all that experience to compete with) who are trying to pay for their 2nd, 3rd home. Its sounds as if you are in a professional field and that's actually against you in this market. You'd have a much easier time finding work if you were in a blue-collar trade.
I think your best bet is to have her relocate to you. Toronto is a good city. What are her reasons for not being able to do this?
Failing that, I would only move if you have a solid job prospect here AND some permanence to your relationship. If you two are so in love and meant to be together, then she should be willing to marry you. Especially if you are going to be taking a career risk to be together. Is she willing to support *you*, while you find work, or is your income and success part of your attraction? Remember, you can always sign a prenuptial agreement, there are many varieties of them (look up sundown clauses). But what you want from her is an equal amount of commitment, I think.
As far as finding a job here, there are headhunter services you can use to help you find work. But, again, I would only do it with a significant commitment on her part. I've seen too many threads on here where one partner moves for the other and then get dumped and left with nothing. Yes, finding 'the One' is rare and should be given every chance to work, but no point in leaving your brain at the door to make it happen.
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