trev, I remember when you posted back in December, this was a disaster then, and you're still hanging onto it. Be relieved the child isn't biologically yours and that you can move forward with nothing holding you to her. But if you aren't willing to go no contact, then she'll keep playing with you just enough to keep you around.
Time to grow a pair and start moving foward. It has been almost 2 months since this fell apart.
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley