Hi all,
First time poster here. Thanks for taking time to read this.
I am currently having an issue with my girlfriend of just over a year. We are both late 20's. We don't live in the same city, in fact, I live around 70 miles away. 9 times out of 10 I will make the journey to see her every weekend, which I don't mind doing at all, the main reason for this is because she doesn't drive or own a car.
Over the past month I've brought up the idea of wanting to move to the same city as hers. I like where she lives and it would also mean that I wouldn't have to travel anymore to see her, I figured this would be a win win situation, apparently not. She has done nothing but put me off the idea since day one. Instead of being enthusiastic and encouraging about it she has made several excuses for me not to do it including:
1 - she is scared if I moved to the same city things wouldnt work out.
2 - She thinks I want to move there because I love the city and not her
3 - She qualifies from her training job this summer and may or may not have to rellocate to another city. To eloborate on this one; she WANTS to stay where she is and even if she had to rellocate it would be somewhere closeish to where she is right now
I'm feeling extremely frustrated by the situation and am considering ending things because of it. It seems she doesn't want to take the relationship to the next stage even though I would be the one making the sacrifice and leaving friends/family behind (which I have no issue with doing.)
I get the impression she just doesnt want me there and we've talked about this several times now and yet I'm no closer to really understanding why as I seem to get a different reason each time.
I feel annoyed, upset, and unappreciated.
Before this we've had a good to very good relationship, but I do feel that she is unappreciative and feel I make most of the sacrificies (I do all the travelling, always drive us to places, often pay for meals, do nice things for her.)
Am I missing something here? Or is this something I should just get out of as soon as possible?