Don't know how to react

[michelle23]

before you were telling him to go into her job to tell the boss and print it on the website, now you say don't seek revenge lololol

I know but I changed my mind-I said that in anger lol as Id be fuming if this happened to me but that is not going to help him and its just going to give her more reason to play the victim. If he wants rid of her-then hell have to give her no reason to contact him.

He could wait a month or two though until everything has calmed down and decide if he wants to tell the boss or not. At least then he will be doing it for the right reasons (the wife)

[Dabstar]

If she respects me so little as to not give back the ring then I've decided she can keep it, it's a small price to pay to get her out of my life asap. Today is the start of the clean break. She unexpectedly sent her brother & another guy here today to pick up her stuff, too gutless to even do it herself - nothing she does surprises me anymore. I just let them get on with it, I'm cutting my losses. I've only just noticed that they left a bag of her clothes, so at least if I'm ever short of toilet paper...

I'm trying to treat today as a positive day. I can't pretend that I don't ache but I seriously don't want to dwell on it any longer, I'm not that kind of person - I want right now to be the start of rebuilding my life & forgetting the past. I might be deluding myself but all I can do is try.

Naturally I'd started putting money away for wedding/honeymoon etc so I'm booking up a holiday with friends asap, a chance to get away from it all and get sorted out.

Thanks everyone.

[tassy]

Wow Dabstar well done to you, i had a giggle about the toilet paper line You seem a lot better today which is wonderful, try to remember this feeling right now today write it down somewhere so can you can read it at times when you are not feeling so strong, cos there will undoubtedly be times to come where you are sad and that is normal, although we sometimes make poor choices at these times cos we just want the heart ache to end. Find a song that helps you stay strong and feel good about you and your decision and play it over and over when you are feeling low. But for now enjoy feeling better you deserve to. I think you are on the right path and a massive WELL DONE!!!! to you. <3

[HeartIsAching]

If she respects me so little as to not give back the ring then I've decided she can keep it, it's a small price to pay to get her out of my life asap. Today is the start of the clean break.

This is healthy.

Remember - the best revenge is living well. She won't, until and unless she mends her ways. Ask me how I know.

[Dabstar]

This is healthy.

Remember - the best revenge is living well. She won't, until and unless she mends her ways. Ask me how I know.

How do you know mate?

[HeartIsAching]

Because I wasn't happy until I mended MY ways... one of which was cheating.

[tassy]

Because I wasn't happy until I mended MY ways... one of which was cheating.

Why am I not surprised? Now to work on your control issues and understanding that not everyone thinks the way you do and you will be almost there

[HeartIsAching]

Oh no sweet one. I have no control issues anymore.

I do find it interesting that you took a bald pointing out of your control issues as an attack, and reacted as such.

[michelle23]

Well done dabsta-we are all proud of you the leech can go and be someone elses problem now. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive people.

Come on here if you need support during the bad days or if you feel alone. It will get better in time. Go spend all the wedding money on yourself and concentrate on healing the wounds

[adasd]

So I asked her why she didn't return the ring and her response is : Because I love him & our relationship isn't over
Also good parts are where she tells me to give her link to this thread because she deserves to know what is being talked ,wonder why you didn't deserve to know about her thread

[searock]

So I asked her why she didn't return the ring and her response is : Because I love him & our relationship isn't over
Also good parts are where she tells me to give her link to this thread because she deserves to know what is being talked ,wonder why you didn't deserve to know about her thread

Who are you?

[adasd]

Should I tell her something like that here is discussion about what she needs to do to get you back and conclusion is if she comes and gives the the ring back then you might take her back?She might fall for it.

[adasd]

Who are you?

I came here from her thread,had to register to read posts.

[michelle23]

So I asked her why she didn't return the ring and her response is : Because I love him & our relationship isn't over
Also good parts are where she tells me to give her link to this thread because she deserves to know what is being talked ,wonder why you didn't deserve to know about her thread

What? Who are you? Do not give her the link to this thread. I wrote on the other thread too calling her a cow but if Dabstar wants to put this link on that other website-he will. It is nobody elses business.

[michelle23]

I came here from her thread,had to register to read posts.

How did you get the link to this thread?? Did he put it up there?