Did I miss my chance with her?

[kingoftheme]

Okay so I met this girl back in September, and we had a great time together that night. She mentioned that due to a combination between a part-time job, an internship, classes, and homework, she would't be able to date. We saw each other whenever she had a chance, but the chances went away mid-November. Every time we met, we had great chemistry, both laughing a lot, and overall good feelings all around. I didn't see her again until the very last day of the semester, where she said that We didn't hang out enough and should step it up next year. I agree, and we catch a movie in January, starting off a more escalated kind of relationship. This was fine by me, since at this point I'm crazy about her.

She constantly suggests events that we should go to, such as a Drive-in movie, watching tv shows together, have lunch every Monday, go to the mall, or even road trip to Canada to catch a concert. She makes plenty of physical contact, and I always reciprocate it. Her free time has drastically increased from last semester, and it sort of feels like we're dating, even if we never had a "what are we" discussion. Now, we went to see a movie and she was listing the options, but said that "we can't see that one, because I have a date for it". What should I do? Have I missed my window? Is this a sign that I should stop my affections, or amplify them? Obviously she now has enough free time to date now, so the way I see it, I have three options.

1. Continue friendship as a friendship and give up any hope of dating her.
2. Continue friendship in the hopes that something will come of it in the future. (Risk her getting snatched up by someone else)
3. Tell her the way I feel about her, and that I want to escalate our relationship.

Is there some other option I am overlooking? What would be the best way to handle this situation?

[Wakeup]

Are you having sex with this girl?

[kingoftheme]

Nope. I've been hesitant with being physical with her because I didn't want to pressure her when she was too busy for a relationship. The most contact I have made was nudging her in her side with my elbow, after she did it to me.

[Wakeup]

Nope. I've been hesitant with being physical with her because I didn't want to pressure her when she was too busy for a relationship. The most contact I have made was nudging her in her side with my elbow, after she did it to me.

I think you should step it up a notch or two or you're going to find yourself friend zoned and you don't want to be just a friend so ask her out and kiss her when you get a chance. Steer her there and she'll kiss you back. Hopefully you're not in the friend zone already.

[kingoftheme]

Right, I don't want to end up there. I see her again on Monday, so I'll try to step it up then.

[Wakeup]

Good luck, subtle yet effective seduction skills to the fore .

Keep us updated. Hopefully you'll get more responses here before Monday.

[pcmaster]

Or better post here right after you bang her.

[kingoftheme]

Okay update on my situation: On Monday I tried to escalate things somewhat, (with the subtle seduction skills) which I initially thought failed. However, the next night she texted me, distraught over something, asking to hug and talk, something she had never done before. I missed this text, not responding until it was around 1AM, and told her I would see her tomorrow night to talk and hug. When I got there she was in one of the happiest moods I've ever seen her in, no trace of being distraught. We touched more than ever before in the two hours we spent together, and the hug at the end was very playful. After she left she texted me that she wanted to chill on Monday. It kind of felt like a date, at least to me, so I think that's an improvement.

[HeartIsAching]

Oh good god. Just talk to her about it.