I want my ex girlfriend back?

[xhexk]

Basically, me and this girl have been speaking since the first day she messaged me nearly 4 months ago. We clicked really had the same interests and outlooks on life, great personality, kind and caring. On top of that we had a LOT of mutual friends as well without ever realizing each other.

So we kept talking, after a week met for the first time, this turned into a relationship after dating for roughly 2 months. Now everything went fine and everyone told us how perfect we were together until we argued, more specifically 2 days ago. We were meant to go for a small party among some of our friends so me and another friend of mine walked up to the area for 20 minutes only so she could literally say hello, give me a hug and say her dad called her and she had to go home. I asked her where everyone else was and she said at hers and I told her to ask them to come out she just said no. Naturally I was very annoyed because I didn't know what was going on so I got home and she told me to call her and I told her I was pissed etc and she snapped so after a while of arguing I just hung up the phone and told her to call me when she's not being like that. The next morning (yesterday) she called me very upset on the phone saying how sorry she is and that it's all her fault and that she respects me so much for trying to resolve the problem while she was being like that and talked about how she gets in trouble with her parents over things and that she can't keep getting her anger out on me. Mind this was the first argument we've had in 4 months and we broke the relationship off but we're still 'friends' as you'd say; I spoke to her like I normally did yesterday but it's just different. I keep getting dreams of losing her and her going with someone else and it's killing me because we were so well connected. Countless of times we've said that no one else has made us feel the same way we make each other feel and I don't want this to go away.

I want to get the relationship back. She does as well she tells me she really likes me but she tells me she can't keep hurting me every time she has troubles with her parents; I'd think we should have went through the troubles with her parents and supported each other. What can I do people? What can I say? I really don't want to lose her.

Oh mind you we're 17 - nearly 18.

[michelle23]

You had an argument and your upset, terrified of losing her even though she said sorry?? I'm confused... did you actually break up or are you just worried that you will split? Every couple argues sometimes. That's normal but whats not normal is breaking up every time you argue.

You should be able to say sorry over silly arguments and both forget it without feeling guilty for being a little snappy or bitchy and without the other holding a grudge. All couples annoy each other sometimes, argue, debate, stress each other out every now and again. The important thing is that you can both say I'm sorry, laugh it off, forget it and focus on the important things.

[xhexk]

You had an argument and your upset, terrified of losing her even though she said sorry?? I'm confused... did you actually break up or are you just worried that you will split? Every couple argues sometimes. That's normal but whats not normal is breaking up every time you argue.

You should be able to say sorry over silly arguments and both forget it without feeling guilty for being a little snappy or bitchy and without the other holding a grudge. All couples annoy each other sometimes, argue, debate, stress each other out every now and again. The important thing is that you can both say I'm sorry, laugh it off, forget it and focus on the important things.

Thanks for getting back to me, no we've actually broken up but we're still in contact. That's what I was thinking but she says she doesn't want to keep getting her anger out on me when it isn't my fault. We've gotten over the argument and we've broken up but neither of us wanted to it's just that she feels she'd be hurting me.

[michelle23]

That's a stupid excuse. Tell her to grow a pair and be honest. Nobody breaks up with someone over something so ridiculous. So what if she was having a bad day and took it out on you? I'm not saying its okay to do that but everybody does sometimes.. its not a reason to end a relationship unless it happens regularly and really upsets you.

Maybe she just doesn't have the decency to tell you the truth-that she just doesn't want to be together anymore. Either ask her to be honest or forget about her.

Sorry OP-I know that isn't what you want to hear but I'm sure this isn't the first break up you've had to deal with and it probably wont be the last. 4 months is nothing and its not worth crying about.

You'll realize that when you have been with someone for four or five years. Good luck to you.

[ashley89]

what an immature reason to break off a relationship... who's decision was it to break up? do you really want to be in a relationship if you're going to break up over a very silly argument?

[xhexk]

That's a stupid excuse. Tell her to grow a pair and be honest. Nobody breaks up with someone over something so ridiculous. So what if she was having a bad day and took it out on you? I'm not saying its okay to do that but everybody does sometimes.. its not a reason to end a relationship unless it happens regularly and really upsets you.

Maybe she just doesn't have the decency to tell you the truth-that she just doesn't want to be together anymore. Either ask her to be honest or forget about her.

Sorry OP-I know that isn't what you want to hear but I'm sure this isn't the first break up you've had to deal with and it probably wont be the last. 4 months is nothing and its not worth crying about.

You'll realize that when you have been with someone for four or five years. Good luck to you.

That's what she's worried about, that this would happen regularly and end up hurting me a lot more than I would be if we ended it now. I don't know though you might be right, I've just never been one to leave things I might regret later on but if I have to and this isn't the only reason well, goodbye to her.

[michelle23]

It sounds like she is just not ready for a relationship. When I first started going out with my bf years ago-I was still living at home and every now and again had a fight with my dad and id be upset but never took it out on him. Instead id just rant and rave a bit and cry and he'd comfort me. Thats called life. If she cant handle it-your better off without her

[bearz]

I think you should give it another chance. Just be open and honest to her and ask her to do the same. Tell her that you want to be there for her when she is having issues with her parents and see if she actually comes to you to seek comfort. If she doesn't and continues to be pissy and bitchy, then you definitely know that she's not the one you want to spend more time with.