Online Issues

[Ellecee3]

Hi Everyone,

Looking for some great advice from you all. I went through a very rough and emotional break up of a very long relationship. It took me a while. I finally met someone who is everything I have ever wanted in every single way and we connected so easily and on a whole other level than I ever have with anyone else before.
He told me he felt the same. Howwver, the only problem is, he lives in a different country for 7 months of the year. We were discussing starting a relationship but mutually decided it would be way too hard to start a long distance relationship and didnt want to risk messing things up for later on because we both felt it was so rare that we clicked so well and so easily. Soon after that though, he became very very distant and I called him out on it. He explained that it was just too hard to be continuously talking and texting and skyping each other and pretty much acting like we were in a relationship when we knew we couldn't be together for another 3-4 months at the least so I let it go and withdrew myself. I was doing okay with forgetting about him until he started talking and messaging me again. Im constantly checking his Facebook and twitter and driving myself crazy over the possibilities with him when he returns home
but I don't want to sit around waiting for
something that may never happen but I literally can't get him off
of my mind. I have blocked him from
Instagram and Twitter but not from Facebook. Should I? Part of me says yes because our of sight, out of mind and I can continue on with my life without thinking about what might happen and part of me says no, because I know he looks and checks my profile too so if he's out of
sight and out of mind for me, I will also be out of sight and out of mind for
him too and I don't want him to forget about me. I also don't want to seem too dramatic and that I care this much by going out of my way to delete him out of my life.

what do I do? Any advice on the situation in general? Please help.

[ashley89]

I don't think it would work out seeing as he lives in another country for 7 months. why not find someone who lives closer to you that you can actually see and spend time with? I think you did the right thing blocking him, it is hard at first but if you continue no contact you will get over it in time.

[michelle23]

If you sit around waiting and hoping you will never move on with your life. You cant have a relationship with someone who you can only see for 5/12 months each year and you would not be able to trust him either if he is always travelling.

I suggest you get off the computer and out of the house. Join a hobby, focus on your career or studies, meet your friends/family. In time you will meet someone special who you can have a future with.

I dont think you should waste any more time on this man unless you want your heart shattered again. Block him from FB and get on with your life.

That connection you are talking about is just infatuation and you will find that again in someone else.

[basilandthyme]

If he REALLY wanted to be with you, he'd change jobs so that he wouldn't be overseas for so long each year. When I met my husband, he was scheduled to go O/S - but he saw good relationship potential and cancelled his contract.

However, with your guy, he still sees he job as being more important than giving this relationship a chance. Remind yourself of this to help you move on.