Originally Posted by
smackie9
I can see where you are coming from. If you say you are an introvert, and you don't interact too much with others, that means you haven't learn any of the social graces. Some peoples reaction, especially during the childhood school years, took the opportunity to pick on those who are not socially out going, shy, look dorky, mom dressed ya funny, etc. This can lead to negative behaviors in adulthood. For example challenging people, coming off as an asshole, arrogant or mean, is a defense mechanism developed over those years to help you cope with certain social situations. All these years of being an introvert, you spent your time observing social situation, and came to you own conclusions as to why others are popular, or attract the girls, have more fun. Now years later, you are still locked in that phase and you see guys that are well built attracting a lot of girls, and after looking at yourself think this must be why you don't have that attraction to others. You start to resent those guys, and feel body conscious from comparing yourself to them. You feel your only answer is to work out and should have what they have, but it's not working. You feel panicked, anxious, frustrated. It's not giving you the confidence you thought it would.
In this thread you are still challenge those who gave some some suggestions, you don't like what you hear and this is how you react to it. It seems you already have all the answers, and you egging on LR to stamp him down to make yourself feel good about yourself. This is the only way for now you can feel good about yourself, by being more superior intellectually, when in reality you are being rude to those you interact with. And you don't see it that way because you never had a chance to learn how to conduct yourself properly in social situations. It's a vicious cycle that won't quit.