I figured since this is my first thread (other than the introduction section one) I would tell you a bit about myself, as how can you give advice w/o a little background…
I am a 31 year old male and I love life, my family, and my job. I am in pretty good shape and have my shit together. I have a great job and only work 3-4 days a week. I have never been married and do not have any kids. I broke up with my GF of almost 5 years about 7 months ago. I had the money saved for a nice ring and before I bought the ring I asked her to move in with me, which she did. After living together for a year I realized I loved her, but had this feeling that I wanted more and was not "in love with her." A few more months went by and I felt it was not right and I would be settling, so I ended it. I now know what I want in a woman more than ever.
I am looking to meet a nice/fun woman and hopefully start up a meaningful relationship. The problem is I have no frame of reference for the “in” or the initial meet of women anymore. All my past relationships have been when I was in college/law school. When in school it was so easy to meet women as they were in my classes, at parties, and I had a much larger social circle. Forward to now and I don’t have that easy access to pools of available women and that “in” to talk to them, whether from a friend, class, etc. My problem is just the getting that initial in to talk to women, as I am not really one to just randomly talk to women I don’t know (unless I get the vibe or smile to come over).
I have tried the club/bar thing and it is either too loud to have a decent conversation or the women are drunk/easy and WAY too quick to jump in the sack. I want a respectable and intelligent woman, who can keep up with me both mentally and physically. And no I am not shy nor do I have a problem talking to women once we get talking.
Basically, how do I get my “in” and not come off as one of those desperate guys that jumps and hits on everything that walks by?
And any other advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.