Can I win back my ex? Long but I need advice.

[bertyhendo]

This is long I know, but I really need advice. Please read.

I went out with a girl last year and after six months she wanted to get married. I didn't want that because I'm only young - still in university - so she wanted to end things. I was okay with this, I didn't feel like we were right for each other. Couple of months later this new girl starts to like me, I wasn't sure on a relationship because of my last one so kept it as friends, but after a while I started to like her a lot, and we started seeing each other in November of last year. At Christmas she tells me - whilst drunk - that she loves me, via text. I tell her am not ready to say it but I do care about her a lot. I meet up with her before New Year, and again, she tells me she loves me. I again tell her how I do care about her a lot but not ready to say those words. The next day she dumps me. We meet up and she claims it wasn't working because my ex (the one who wanted to marry me) was getting involved with her friends, and comparing my new girlfriend to my ex, and she hated it. I managed to talk her round and we tried it again. A week later she says to end it again.

We stay close though, and texted often, and I went round to her house a few times to just talk. I realised I was falling for her properly but couldn't do anything about it. She text me on Valentines Day saying how she wanted to kiss me and stuff and that I'm good to her even though she ended everything. We stay close still, then a week or so later, she tell's me she's been on a date. I broke down and told her how I felt. She didn't believe me and me not saying it originally really hurt her, so I went a bit overboard and wrote her a letter, Facebook messages, texts etc to try and prove to her I meant what I said. Nothing worked, so a week later I told her I was moving on. That night, a few friends go back to hers for a few drinks. Whilst there, she texts me saying she misses me. I go the toilet and suddenly she's there with me, starts kissing me and it starts to lead on to other stuff. We stop because people are in her house, but she makes an excuse for me to stay once they've all gone. That night we end up doing stuff - not going to go into details, but everything but sex. We tell each other how we feel about each other and she say's try again and basically keep our relationship secret. Next day she texts me, starts sending dirty texts, saying she want's me. I go round that night, but her housemates are home so we can't do anything. We meet outside and we kiss for a bit, she tells me she wants me to sleep with her - we're both virgins - but I leave because she hears her housemates. That night, she rings me saying we can't do it anymore and it needs to stop. I try and speak to her the next day but she shuts me out. She then tells me her brother was taken ill that night and 'our relationship' isn't important at the moment. Few days later we try and talk about it but she says it was a mistake and she was drunk. She wasn't drunk, she'd had half a bottle of cider and claims that made her do the things she did with me, and the next day it was still in her system. It wasn't true but I ignore it. We say to try as friends. We Skype a couple of times and we get on really well, like we used to.

I ask about meeting up for coffee but she says no, anything I try she tells me no. She goes out on a night out with friends and Skype's me in the early hours of the morning, drunk. She tells me I' a dick and her friends think so because of the way I've 'treated her', and her and her friends don't like me. I ask how I can fix things, and she say's I can't, and goes offline.

Next day I question what she said and she say's she can't remember any of it, and whatever she said I shouldn't take to heart because she was drunk. Later on we speak on Facebook. I say about going out for a drink sometime but she say's she can't because she's worried about having a drink around me because she'll 'want me'. I then say tell her we can never be proper friends if she's thinking like this, and that it's not my fault she feels that way after a drink and it shouldn't get in the way of the friendship. If it was to happen, then maybe there's feelings she's not admitting herself to and we should talk about it. She said she didn't want to talk and she doesn't want it to happen. I then say maybe it's best if we cut contact because my head is all over the place at the moment. She say's she 'doesn't care about my head, it's not her problem. She's says about being friends but then just pushes me away, and I tell her she doesn't know what she want's. She said she does and that's for me to 'f-off', she then blocks me on Facebook and Skype. That night I had some trouble with my brother and she helped me out a lot, so the next day I go to her house with some chocolate and a note and give it to her. The note said basically about trying as friends again because she really stuck by me with my brother and it made me realise how much she means to me. She text me later saying we can't be friends.

Few days later she rings me about this party we're going to, I made her the invites when we were still 'civil'. She asked me to send them through again, so I did. She also asked me to go the party - which is in a coupe of months - because I said I wasn't going. We leave it at that and she goes home for Easter. I get drunk and text her. Basically said I still have feelings for her, apologise for everything I've done, and apologise for being a 'dick'. She says I'm still a dick, so I ask how to fix things. She says I can't. Next day she texts me about the night before. I apologise for acting like an idiot, and then try talking to her normally. Tell her am trying to fix things between us, and she says it helps if I wasn't annoying her. Told her I wasn't trying to annoy her, she says I'm still a dick and it'll take a lot more than me just texting her to fix things, and maybe I should leave her alone for a bit.

I have done. That was a week ago. She's still kept me on Twitter - dunno if that's so she can keep tabs on me, but she's blocked me on everything else. Like I said we haven't spoken in a week, but I made a post on Twitter, saying how I'd tried on some new style of clothes but looked like an idiot - she replied to me saying how it must be an improvement then. Wasn't sure if this was a joke or insult. My friends seem to think it was a lame attempt at flirting, but am not sure.

So yeah, it's very long I know, but advice and help would be appreciated. I really want to fix this because when we went out, we both considered the future, but then things messed up and I want to be able to fix them, if possible.

Thanks.

[michelle23]

too much drama! its not worth it

[lamobatsman]

haha yep wayy too much drama. this is why i say if a guy does something rong never say sorry or try to win her back. she will do this to you and treat u like dirt.

[bertyhendo]

I know it's a lot of drama, but before all the crap happened everything was great between me and my ex. And I want to be able to get things like that before I graduate and never see her again, because then there might be a chance at something more, you know?

[lamobatsman]

brings me a question- why do girls turn into sadistic bitches???

[lamobatsman]

I know it's a lot of drama, but before all the crap happened everything was great between me and my ex. And I want to be able to get things like that before I graduate and never see her again, because then there might be a chance at something more, you know?

i want things to go back to the way they were with me and this girl but never gonna happen. u dont get wat u want in life sometimes

[bertyhendo]

No I know, but I think she's acting like this because she's still hurt because I never told her how I felt about her, and it took her to go on a date before I did anything about it.

[bertyhendo]

Anything I can possibly do then? Like I said, she's kept me on Twitter - not that it really matters - but she hasn't 'cut' all ties with me. At least not yet.