Originally Posted by
Annie1234
I found a while back that my husband was messaging people online and was on singles sites as a single his profile stated he was looking for filthy chat and he messaged many people asking if they were interested in casual sex, we got all this out in the open, yet he still maintains there was nothing wrong with our relationship and says he doesn't know why he did it, I find this hard to believe and can't get the notion of if he didn't know then how can he say it won't happen again, yet he can tell me he didn't do it for certain reasons ie myself, or lack of sex etc, he did say at one point he only wanted to see if anyone would be interested as we had a row at some point and. I had supposedly said it wasn't working, can someone really not know why they would do this because I feel like he's just too scared to be honest
He doesn't know why he did it? Wow, that is such a mystery! A real enigma. Even Sherlock Holmes would be perplexed.
As a suggestion, try applying Occam's Razor: the simplest explanation that fits the facts is usually the accurate explanation. So... why was he chatting with people online and asking for casual sex? Because he wanted to get laid.
And he is giving himself permission to cheat on you again. Because he "doesn't know why he did it," he won't be changing any of his behavior and it's going to happen again for allegedly mysterious reasons. Since your husband doesn't seem to have any respect for you anymore, ask yourself why you should keep trying to make this marriage work. Maybe you have good reasons, like for the sake of the kids.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.