Okay so heres the full story

[crudemood]

I've posted fragments of the full story before but I think I need to let it all out... I'm real confused now.

So, I’m kind of seeing this girl. We went out to a concert, yoga, and lunch together. We had good times.

One night when we went out clubbing together I could tell she was REALLY into me at that point and I was a little bit scared (I don’t know why) so I started drinking my beers faster… By the end of the night I had a little too much to drink and she got upset at me the next day saying she was disappointed in me because of certain things I’ve done that night that I don’t remember doing. I waited a week to apologize to her. I asked her if she was going to stay mad at me forever and she said she was just waiting for an apology. Okay, were all good for now. (I think)

A week or so later I ask her out again and she told me she was busy. Thats fine. But then I asked her out two more times and she said she was busy. I know that she’s upset at me for what I did when I was drunk so I told her that I genuinely was sorry and wanted to make it up to her and so I tried for one last ditch ask out and she finally said yes. I told her we were gonna go to the beach.

Come the day before the beach date I contact her asking if she’s still up for it and she gives me a maybe but she suggest we go to the lunch instead so she would feel a bit more comfortable… Okay, I agreed.

During this lunch date, she was on her phone and not paying attention to what I said. She revealed to me that she had been depressed and that her life sucked. She didn’t seem too happy. I kept carrying the conversation and finally it died and we sat there for a while not saying anything to each other. Turns out she was called in for work that same day after lunch, so she must have been stressed because she would have worked 7 days that week. I tried to not take it personally…

As bad as I thought the date had went, she texted me right after saying how she was off to work. I told her to be happy and smile more.

A week later, today, I texted her saying good morning and asking her how she was. I didn’t get a response.

Do you think that one night at the club ruined any chance I had with her? I really do like this girl but I think she’s totally turned off by how I acted that one night clubbing.

I’m trying to put myself in her shoes… am I missing something? I don’t know if I should keep trying or not.

[basilandthyme]

My advice isn't going to change. Even if you had been a saint at the club, her depression and sucky life should serve as a warning for you to stay away. Unless of course, you actually WANT a depressed and sucky girlfriend.

Find yourself a girl who is happy, positive and who finds you more interesting than her phone.

[YoungCosmo]

**** this girl. She made excuses and had the major discourtesy of ignoring you in lieu of a phone conversation on a date. Who cares about what you did that night? She has got MAJOR issues NOW and is not even worth pondering that one night over...

[jbruced]

The early first contact is important and it's true that the women have a high radar for any mis-step that a man makes. It is also important to take the focus of any one female, it's a numbers game. First contact with each female is an opportunity to practice the 30/70 rule. Listen to her talk 70% and talk yourself 30% of the time. Stay neutral and ask lots of questions. The more available you are the less excited she is to be with you. Let the relationship evolve naturally, and keep at least 3 women in rotation. Suspended physical relations is suggested.

[crudemood]

My advice isn't going to change. Even if you had been a saint at the club, her depression and sucky life should serve as a warning for you to stay away. Unless of course, you actually WANT a depressed and sucky girlfriend.

Find yourself a girl who is happy, positive and who finds you more interesting than her phone.

You're right but there's something about her really. I know I should walk away. My head says one thing but the rest of me says another. I'm very torn. Maybe its best to just walk away but I'm always going to wonder what if. If I want something I should go for it right? I don't want to live with any more regrets.

[crudemood]

**** this girl. She made excuses and had the major discourtesy of ignoring you in lieu of a phone conversation on a date. Who cares about what you did that night? She has got MAJOR issues NOW and is not even worth pondering that one night over...

You know what though, she was very sweet with me up until that day. I know she has issues, I knew it the first day I met her. I don't know what it is but I can't seem to stay away from her. Maybe its best that I did. I just don't like knowing that I messed up. This is the first time in my life I've gotten so close to getting the girl I wanted without scaring her off but I did. I kind of see it as a failure again and I don't want to accept that.

My whole life I've never went for a girl that I've wanted, I would walk away and pretend I didn't feel anything. I've never been so close. Its kind of like a goal for me, do I really just give up on my goal? What does that say about my character?