I was in a relationship for 5 years, we bought a house and a dog together last year. 3 years in to the relationship we broke up because she had a one night stand with someone. After a short break up (2 weeks) where I was devastated, after lots of chasing by me, we gave it a 2nd chance, in hindsight, mainly because I was scared of being single and thought I wouldn't be able to find someone I loved as much as I did her. About 6-7 months after this incident, to try and make things work, we bought a house and I thought we were committed to making our relationship work.
At the beginning of this month, she decided that she wasn't happy and has moved out, leaving me living alone (except for the dog). We haven't spoken in person, by email or text except about money since she left.
For the last few months, I've noticed that we'd been a bit distant with each other, and she's been going out on all night benders with her friends and I know she's been meeting lots of new people, which had been causing me to withdraw from her.
Despite all of this, I'm starting to miss her and my head is all over the place, although I don't think I want to be with her anymore. Am I just missing having someone next to me?
I don't really enjoy going out to clubs or drinking to excess any more, and whenever I'm with my friends and meet new people, my friends are a lot more confident and outgoing than me, so I don't get a look in. I just don't see how I'll ever meet an attractive girl who will like me.
Having not been single for a long time, I don't know how to approach women who I don't know and very few people my age seem to be single. I guess I've developed a fear of being rejected.
I just need some tips and advice on where to go from here. I'm just an average guy who is a bit low on confidence at the moment. I'd like to meet someone new as I enjoy being in a relationship. Help please!
In the last 10 years, I've only met 1 or 2 interesting girls (not that I was looking at the time I was in a relationship, but ive noticed that I havent met many nice girls) and I'm feeling scared of not meeting any single interesting girls again.
I don't mind being single for now, but I'm scared that I won't meet anyone and I'll be single for the foreseeable future, which I don't want. Most nice girls my age are already in a relationship.
I don't know if the right person really does show themselves.
Do I just resign myself to being single and not having a family?