Howdy,
I just wanted to see other peoples opinions, as well as get my thoughts out in writing as it usually helps me with this kind of stuff.
I have been dating a girl for a year now, and she is the first girlfriend I have ever had. We get along extremely well, and she is one of the sweetest gals I have ever had the pleasure to meet.
With that being said -- our sex life is shit. We have sex about twice a month on average, and this month we have only had sex a single time. We have talked about this a few times now and for her it always comes down to stress and sickness and a variety of other things. We talked about spicing it up and came up with some interesting ideas, but it is always me that has to initiate all of these new ideas even though she is the one with the major lack in sex drive. I do everything I can to make sure she enjoys it, and she always finishes. She is a horrible liar and has physical signs when she cums (trembling, red skin, extreme sensitivity, etc) so it would be very difficult for her to fake it -- so I do not believe that this is the problem. I also frequently go down on her as it doesn't bother me at all and I know she enjoys it. On the flip side, she rarely goes down on me and only if I ask. She never takes initiative in the same way that I do etc.
There is only so many times you can kick dirt on a fire before it is extinguished. I don't feel the same connection romantically as I used to and I think it is time to end it. We have practically turned into best friends because of this issue. I know it is going to crush me but I can't think of any alternatives. There is no way I will ever take this relationship any further as I know that low sex frequency at this stage of a relationship and age (21) is a HORRIBLE sign. This type of stuff only gets worse with time and it is already pretty bad.
Has anyone here been in my shoes? Would you guys do anything different?