maybe do it with a guy whos not your type at all-maybe someone who appears gay or something lol... Or when you are emotionally unavailable. I didnt trust the first guy I slept with or feel safe with him so it was easy not to get attached and I just dumped him like 2 weeks later.. the guy before that was too feminine for me which is why I didnt sleep with him but the other stuff we did was fine and I didn't get attached. Maybe pick someone your not sexually attracted to with a personality that makes you cringe. That worked for me
I dont think with my heart. I think with my head. I'm logical and rational and I don't wear my heart on my sleeve. I find it easy to cut all ties with someone if they are bad for me. For me love is not enough on its own. There has to be trust, respect, equality and attraction or I would be as cold as ice and walk out the door.. Thats just me.
Last edited by michelle23; 01-07-13 at 06:07 PM.
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
I envy you. I wouldn't be able to do it with a guy I'm not attracted to. I think I would feel much worse. Myabe I shouldn't have gone on a date with the American, so I wouldn't have found out that we have so many things in common, and it would have just been sex.
Maybe I shouldn't go on dates yet and stay away from men. Built an emotional fence around me or something. I don't want a relationship but I want to feel free to go out with someone and have a fling without the whole emotional drama afterwards.
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
you know what I would like? I would like to try it out with other men, see how it is, have a hot and steamy adventure and then end it on my terms and don't think about any of it. But I don't think I am capable of doing so without getting emotional etc.
Are you strong enough to walk away and feel the pain for awhile and not allow yourself to go back IF you do become attached?
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
Yes, I get attached easily. I'm afraid that I will end up in a relationship again as soon as I sleep/snog with someone and this is not something I would like.
I need to think about what you said.
I'm going for a long backpacking trip at the end of this year and I will probably meet a lot of people on the way. Maybe having an affair with someone who would leave in a next few days is sort of an option even if I feel attracted to them.
Can I ask is there a reason why you want this fling so bad? Is it that you feel like you missed out on experiences? Or just that you are not ready to fall in love again?
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
Both really. I feel like I missed something in my life. I want to go through something really great: something romantic with lots of passion and hot sex and then be able to say good bye to the guy. I'm not ready to fall in love - or maybe I am, but don't want it to be long term as I'm starting to enjoy being single.
what if you found out hes married? would that make you say no?
could you not have a hot passionate steamy relationship and fall in love at the same time?
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".