After deciding not to see someone anymore recently I went through my journals (yes, I keep a diary ) and read entries from the last 10 years. After reading countless pages about the pain of failed relationships something hit me that I had forgotten about--I have a pattern of dating narcissistic men.
Everything starts out great then the person will disappear for a while then re-appear later wanting to pick up exactly where we had left off 2 weeks ago. When plans are being made and I'm waiting to hear back from them, they like to wait until the last minute to see if something else better comes up and then calls to tell me they can't make it. If they are an exploitative narcissist they will actually do a better job playing the perfect boyfriend at first, then after winning my heart the facade start crumbles and one day I am wondering why there are so many long strands of hair in his bed that are not the same color as mine.
Does anyone else have this tendency to date narcissists (or very selfish people) and how do/did you try to overcome it?