Girlfriend has gone to camp for 6 weeks.

[gerald88]

Hey!

My girlfriend (Of 6 months) has gone to teach kids in camp in america for 6 weeks, she's already been gone for 18 days but this is haaarrrddddd!

We discussed it extensively before she went and she was absolute adamant that i had nothing to worry about, in terms of her meeting anyone out there. I trust her, in terms of not actually doing stuff with someone while we're together, but im worried that she might meet someone out there, or just forget about me while she's away. She's told me that won't happen, and aslong as i give her a little bit of space when she gets back (her ex was wayyyy to OTT about this, and didn't give her any a couple of years back) Then hopefully we'll be stronger for it.

We can barely speak because apparently where she is, they hardly get any signal and she rarely gets time off. This is her 3rd time of going and i knew she was going from our 2nd date so i can't really have any complaints about how difficult it is.

Anyway, I just needed somewhere to rant about this, because i'm sure my friends are sick and tired of it and the last thing i want to do is to message it to her and make her feel like she's being suffocated and what not.

I sent her a package on friday, some magazines, sweets and a little note inside, aswell her birthday present in a separate bag (It's her birthday while she's out there)

I know the package got to her camp on Friday afternoon, and i sent her a message on facebook saturday day time telling her to go a check with the people who get her post, so she can pick it up.
She didn't read the msg until like a day later, 2am sunday morning (Time difference)

The thing that's really bugged me is that i can see she's read the message, but hasn't replied to it. I specifically put a note in the package asking her to let me know when she received it so i know she got it.

I guess it's possible that she read the message and then ran to get the package without replying. Thinking i'd be asleep anyway, because of the time difference, and then maybe couldn't get signal on her phone or something after to reply to it?

Am i wrong in thinking, she should probably make it a top priority today to reply to the message and let me actually know she got it?

Im worried, because she's such an awesome girl and we talk about everything and our messages between eachother are always joking and little inside jokes, but the messages i've received from her while she's been in camp have been tiny little generic messages....

Overthinking?

Sorry, I just needed to vent!

Thanks.

[TablesandChairs]

I always make an effort to contact my partner as often as is practical when I'm gone for long periods of time; not because he gets jealous as such but because he has anxiety over my safety (I've travelled to some higher risk places in the past). It's not that hard to be considerate and nobody is busy 24/7...that said, there were times when my signal would go from on to off constantly (or I'd have none at all), making communication impossible. Not much that can be done in these situations.

[michelle23]

Maybe the signal was bad and she tried to respond but it wouldnt work.

I think you need to stop panicking. 6 weeks is not that long, be strong. Men used to go to war and be away from their wife for god only knows how long and all they could do was write the occasional letter. They accepted it and got on with.

You need to trust her. Why are you so afraid that she will meet someone else? Do you trust yourself?

If the worst does happen and she does meet someone else and you break up-so be it. Everything happens for a reason but for now try to enjoy the relationship and look forward to her coming home. The time will fly. Try to stay busy and avoid the opposite sex as you are obviously vulnerable right now. Not saying you would cheat but its an easy trap to fall into if you are in a long distance relationship so just bear that in mind

Good luck

[gerald88]

Yeah, I know. I think i just over-reacted, i saw she had read it and just thought WTF?

Too be fair, i feel better about it all now, maybe it was writing it all down and getting it off my chest that helped.

I know deep down she won't meet anyone else there, i mean, anything is possible, but i doubt it very much. It would just be nice to hear from her that she misses me or something, but she's not that 'soppy' kind of girl anyway.

IF I see she's online at some point, and has done something on facebook, liked a comment/put a status up etc. I'm in my rights to ask her if she got the package again right? Assuming she hasn't replied already, of course.

[michelle23]

Yes ask her again if she received it, just say you miss her, you hope she is having a good time and you are looking forward to her return. And then just say dinner for two on me when you get back?

[gerald88]

Sounds like a plan! Haha.

Thanks.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Anyone she meets there will just be a fling anyway. Just a fun hook up for the two of them until they come back to their respective realities. If anything happens, it doesn't really count.

[Wakeup]

lolzz That otta unangst him.