trust issues, breaking up, wanting to feel pain.. so messed up

[namemyname]

In reading this again, I believe him, I really do.

Men don't approach these things like women. If we did it, it would be with full intent. But guys are so visual, they just like to look at shit. I mean, I've seen some porn that I seriously regret seeing that people have sent me (beastiality, poo - that kind of sick stuff), but just because I was curious enough to look at it ONCE, doesn't mean it's something that has continued (and it hasn't), or was even arousing (it wasn't).

I still think the larger issue here is YOU. Why you are so mistrustful, why this is suddenly cropping up, why you can't let go...

Do you have access to a therapist?

[stilldoubting]

i believe him too. deep down i no he is not like that. he is a fiercly loyal person and even if we were having issues-i doubt he would seek attention elsewhere.

i am not myself lately. perhaps i do have an anxiety disorder or even depression. maybe this is all me. we have never had trust issues.. it could all be in my head. why i even looked in his phone i dont no.

they always say if a person is guilty they will get angry or defensive or say why did you check my phone. he never said that. he has been quite calm about all this. i do need to let it go

[stilldoubting]

i no he is terrified of losing me. i can see the stress is getting to him too. he keeps saying "babe you know im not like that" and its true.. hes not.

[stilldoubting]

i just want to clarify that this is not something that comes up every day. maybe 5times since the discovery. i am trying my hardest to let it go

[michelle23]

if you cant let it go then you need to seek therapy. i believe he is telling the truth. maybe counselling is a good idea anyway. if your this anxious and depressed its not good for you or your relationship.
it sounds to me like he is telling the truth. we have seen so many mistrust posts here and sometimes it is just so blatantly obvious that the accussed is guilty. this is not one of those cases.

there is nothing indicating that you cant trust him