Why don't you just learn to accomodate him in the bedroom. You've learned to accomodate his bs outside the bedroom so why not just be who he wants you to be and stop complaining about it? You're not going to leave him so why bother sharing your sex life and other aspects of your union with us?
Normal is what's normal for you. Do YOU thinks he's normal, a good partner, puts your needs ahead of his own on occassion, makes sure you're happy? Or is the opposite to all that your current "normal?"
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion