I've always been attracted to the same type of girl.
- Independent
- Practical
- Self-sufficient
- Analytical, Precise
- Healthy
Maybe because I'm the dreamer type and pretty impractical. I live my life based on intuition and gut feeling. I'm very sensitive and I have a strong awareness for how others are feeling around me. I can walk into a room and within the first 10 seconds, understand how everyone is feeling. I'm not financially practical. I don't look for good deals or have the patience to. As a result, I probably spend more money than I should. I value high quality things and I'll pay good money for things I want. I'm also self-indulgent and have been known to enjoy alcohol a bit too much. I'm pretty self-indulgent person. I'm not without discipline though. I have a good job and a career I value. I work very hard at it. But after I put in my hard work and earn my money, I like to indulge.
I've been hurt in the past by these type of girls. Although these types can be wonderful people, they can also walk away from someone easily if they feel things aren't working out. They technically don't "need" anybody and so if they don't feel they have a future with you, they will leave and won't feel guilty about it. This has toughened me up over the years to the point where I've become quite independent and self-sufficient myself. I don't warm to people as quickly anymore. I also don't like asking for favors and would rather depend on myself. I think these lessons, although painful, is just the awful tasting medicine I needed. I feel I've grown to become wiser, mature and independent as a result.
Yet, when it comes to girls, I still find myself being attracted to the same type. And it's not must one way. It'd be pointless if I was attracted to a certain type but they never reciprocated. Every girl with these traits that I've been involved with has more or less reciprocated in their feelings. I think while they offer me boundaries, discipline, and practical advice in my life, I offer them a certain level of escape, comfort, and romanticism. I'm great at thinking up creative date ideas and I know how to plan things. Because I'm very sensitive, I plan things to detail and I'm always aware of how they are feeling. At some point however, either they get tired of my neediness and clingyness or they feel I am too nice and come to value me less or I feel they become way too bossy and blunt and I become angry with them. The thing is tho and an ex even told me this. I ask for it. I invite them to my life and I want their problem-solving abilities and practicality but then they become a little too bossy and blunt for my liking and because I am sensitive, they say or do something that hurts me.
Am I punishing myself being attracted to the same type of women over and over again? When I'm with women who are more emotional and needy and always need my help, I just don't feel the same level of attraction. At most, I am physically attracted to them but there is no mental connection.