So, let me begin that Im new here and I only made this to help me improve my relationship or get another perspective. Now to my problem....
See, my gf have been together 9 months now. Back in march one of my exes decided to be stupid and make a foolish attempt to get back with me. My gf saw this and it sparked her to go through all my facebook messages, emails, notifications, etc because she believed that I had a girl on the side. That ended up with her finding out that for the first three months she and I were dating I still flirted with other girls ( only flirted, for I never had sex with anyone else during that time). Well, even though it had stopped months before that it caused her to lose all trust in me which to this day she has yet to recover any of.
We've been working on it. But see. I was forced to give her access to all my accounts because she insisted that it would help her regain trust on me. I also stopped hanging out with my friends because my work schedule made it so most of the time I could only see them at night and she found this vary inappropriate and an indirect sign that I may cheat. But all of this has somehow caused the opposite effect? She keeps thinking I want to be with other girls, she logged into my verizon account and got all my text messages to forward to her phone or tablet so she can see everything I talk about, she accused me of making a snapchat to show girls my privates even though she knows im not the type of guy that does that, and so forth....WITHIN the past week. She almost left me yesterday and she doesn't get how I feel uncomfortable having absolute no privacy in this relationship. Or that every little thing I do somehow goes back to me being a cheater.
So really...what can I reasonably do to make her trust me again? It's been almost six months since she found out I had been flirting with other girls before but I had already stopped way before she even found out. Is it reasonable that THAT caused this many problems? I really need advice. It hurts me when she keeps making claims like that and it bothers me having no privacy.