I split up with my girlfriend around 3 months ago. We completely broke off communication until recently when we decided to meet up for dinner. We didn't talk about our relationship at all. We just talked about whats current in each others lives. The next day we were texting each other and I felt like it would be good if we met up again to discuss why our relationship failed.
We met for breakfast and we had a really good talk. We determined we failed due to lack of communication and my lack of commitment. Most everything she had to say seemed so clear to me now. The time apart really allowed me to see the situation through her eyes. Its almost as if me understanding her lifted a huge weight off my chest. I thanked her for the talk and told her I feel like these are things we can fix. She expressed that she doesn't want to rush back into the relationship unless she feels like we've fixed everything. She also told me that she is dating someone casually. I told her I respected her decision and that we should keep in touch and if it starts feeling right, maybe we can try it again. She agreed and that is where we currently stand.
We were together for 4.5 years. She is 26 and I am 25. We had a healthy relationship and we've always cared for each other. She just said she started to shut down when she felt I'd never commit to her. Which, I attribute as the source to the problems that led to us being unhappy and eventually breaking up.
I'd like to get the forums perspective on this situation. My plan is to just move forward with my life unless something changes. I think this my only option as she said she is currently dating. Also, does anyone have any experience where a breakup actually helped the relationship? I feel like the clarity I've gained from the breakup has helped me see everything in a new light.