Some of you may already know my story. I dated a married man for about 4+ years. I then became pregnant. I gave birth to a healthy baby boy a few weeks ago and as I settle into motherhood, I am facing my reality. His wife does know of our affair and our baby. Although he is being a good father to our son financially, I know my son will want for nothing as we both have fulfilling careers. I feel as though my son isn't going to get the same treatment his other kids get because he spends more time with his wife and their two children. He is working on getting back with his wife. I don't know if she'll take him back. He told me that if it doesn't work out with her, he definitely wants to be with me. I didn't have the energy to argue with him. I know deep down that it's over between us. I deserve better then that. So does my son. After I had him, everything changed. My entire outlook on this situation changed. I'd rather be a single mother to my child then to allow him to see his daddy creeping with me or being the other woman. I do love him still but I decided to let go. I'm holding on to nothing anyway. I told him he should bring his other kids to meet their little brother and he said, sweetheart that's not a good idea. Not now. I feel as if they should know their brother and have a relationship with him. I want my kid to get treated equally and I know it's a working progress.
I know I'm partially responsible for this. I really loved him but I wonder if he ever loved me. I feel as if he took an advantage of me. My question is, why do some of you men string women along? Why treat a woman like that? Why get her all into you, only to toss her aside in the end? Why do some of you play these foolish ass games? How about being honest from the beginning.