She should tell him that she is unsatisfied with their sex life. If he doesn't care or is unwilling to try and fix it, then it's time to finally end the relationship.
She should tell him that she is unsatisfied with their sex life. If he doesn't care or is unwilling to try and fix it, then it's time to finally end the relationship.
What your not getting is that communication is very important if you want a relationship to last the test of time where you BOTH work to make each other happy. If one isn't willing to work at it, to try and remedy ANY discord, not just sexual ones then the union is fkd for the long haul.
*As for some "deeper issue" right now her beef is the lack of sex. They should address that and if their actual relationship doesn't improve once what's eating her up is fixed, then they can address that as it emerges. If he won't talk about something that eating him up, then she's unable to remedy if she doesn't know whats going on. Same with him. That's when couples councelling is a good idea. A therapist will help them to open up to one another.
Last edited by Wakeup; 27-09-13 at 10:08 PM. Reason: added at *
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
Lol, if her only concern is the lack of sex, then that goes back to what I was talking about with maturity. That's my point. You can look at this superficially or you can look at the deeper issues. Your choice. As for communication, like I said, I'm all for it, but if you're not talking about the actual problem then it's pointless.
The actual problem is their lack of a satisfying sex life. The reasons for this problem they can only figure out by talking about it. Sex is a HUGE part of a happy, healthy relationship, so when something's wrong in that department, there's a huge problem with the relationship.
They should talk about it and if he doesn't want to try and fix it, the relationship is over.
This is a defeatest attitude and one from the "throwaway" generation where it's just easier to throw it away and get a new one. That goes from phones that still work to relationships that can be fixed.
No relationship with improve if there is no effort or communication to remedy. If she loves him, and he still loves her then there is still a chance of getting back on track... but, you have to not have the attitude that a year is past so the relationship is done.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
This is a defeatest attitude and one from the "throwaway" generation where it's just easier to throw it away and get a new one. That goes from phones that still work to relationships that can be fixed.
No relationship will improve if there is no effort or communication to remedy. If she loves him, and he still loves her then there is still a chance of getting back on track... but, you have to not have the attitude that a year is past so the relationship is done.
It is the issue at hand.Not really, but that's OK.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
No, it's not the issue at all. It's a reflection of the underlying problem.
Last edited by Wakeup; 27-09-13 at 10:32 PM.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
That's great, but that's only a reflection of her inability to identify the actual issue. And yours.
Oh great, we have a male Michelle amongst us. *sighs*
Anyway, sorry, I didn't know you knew them and had lived with them thereby through witness had sussed out their actual issue.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
Nah, Michelle isn't so dim-witted and annoying..! I wonder where she is btw?
differing of opinion I guess... shhhhhh, let a sleeping baby sleep.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion