Difference between a disinterested guy and a guy who lacks confidence?

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I like this guy at my church who i see often because we are also involved in voluntary church activities in the community 3 days a week. I feel like he likes me as well. The feedback from other people who talk to him is positive. The problem is I do most of the initiating, he mostly hangs around watching me. He always answers my texts and my phone calls and if he saw me out and I was in a hurry to get somewhere he'll say "I was gonna stop and have a chat but you were in a hurry" but then when I'm right there he rarely starts a conversation. He'll just say "nice dress." Or some other one line. I don't know if we're even friends at this point because friends can talk to each other. Sometimes when i walk into the room he gives me that raised eyebrow deer caught in headlights look. I feel like I am always initiating and I am tired of it. For what it's worth he gets visibly unhappy seeing me talk to other guys.

Am I doing the wrong thing if I just stop paying any attention to him at all? He hasn't done anything wrong and he is flirty and chatty when I initiate but I want him to do it so I can be more sure of his interest. Otherwise I get paranoid that he's just not interested and i'm wasting my time trying to keep the lines of communication open.

The problem is I don't want to show disinterest either by suddenly pulling away when he did nothing to provoke it.

I guess the real question would be, what's the difference between a man who knows you're interested and doesn't return the interest, or one who is interested but not confident and needs the woman to do something?

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I guess the real question would be, what's the difference between a man who knows you're interested and doesn't return the interest, or one who is interested but not confident and needs the woman to do something?

Right now, as a matter of practicality, there is no difference. The result is the same.

He likes you, but he's probably nervous and doesn't want to make a mistake. "Nice dress", is him trying. It's pathetic, but it's trying. He wanted to talk to you, but didn't have anything to say, so he tried to pay you a compliment and hoped you'd help him out. How did you respond?

Show him some interest, and I mean more than idle chit chat. Invite him to do something with you. If he's still too bitch-made to even talk to you after that, then you know you're dealing with a true wuss, and if you did date him, you would have to be the one to initiate everything. My guess is that if you dated this guy, he would be very clingy.