I moved out from a girl that treated me great 9 months ago, She has a big drug problem. We saw each other for three months then she abruptly stopped returning my calls. Fine- I thought of her sometimes the last six months but was moving on. I have not dated again- which is unusual for me. Anyway- last week I stopped at a friend's house I have not seen for a while, He said my ex gf stops there sometimes and hangs out. She told him she was mad our relationship did not work and that I bailed out on her, He said she has not dated anyone. This information made me miss her immensely- plus I was a little jealous. SO i called her numerous times until she returned my call. She confirmed what my friend said. We have talked the last few days but she gives me little time on the phone- "I'm busy-I got to do things." She says. She told me she had a romantic dream about me the first day we talked (probably because I called her 15 times the night before! Something I really don't do) I said we should hang out. She said maybe, The next day she was reluctant. The next day she said maybe after she takes care of her house. (there was a fire) She eventually hung up on me because she said she was busy. She said things like- I think of you sometimes- I am moving forward- you are not my best friend now- etc. But she has returned my calls four days in a row, Fairly quickly. I did not call her today.
Ok- I will state her drug use is still going on. But I want to see her - even if it is just as friends. I have always thought of maybe re-establishing contact and I realized a whole six months have gone by without us talking!
My question is:
1- what do people think of her statements to me.
2-What if I just stop by her house sometime soon? Is that weird?
Oh- don't tell me she is not worth it because of the drugs. I am already aware of that problem. Part of me wants to make up====but I just seeing her in person seems important to me. She has no reason to hate me or fear me. I have lots of anxiety because of all this- it is worse than when I first left her! Thanks for the comments people!