How can I get my Ex Girlfriend back?
Long story but I will keep it as short a possible.
Me and my Ex girlfriend where together for 11 months in total. My love for her was so un real, she is the most beautiful girl I've ever met, yet so amazingly wonderful and thoughtful on the inside too. We had a very honest,loving and caring relationship and we're quite sexually active.
towards the last 2-3 months before we broke up it started to go down hill. She told me that the spark from our relationship had gone. I was quite upset, but not to angry. I wasn't sure why she'd think this but eventually After trying so hard to work things out I realised she wasn't as happy as we where before. We had many discussions about ending, but in late August 2013 we mutually decided to call it quits.
I wasn't too angry at the time, just mainly disappointed but it didn't seem to affect my life as much as I thought it would.
We briefly met up a week after this for some casual sex (or final sex as It felt like).
After this I realised we'd have to take things a bit more seriously from now on.
We'd continue hanging out as friends, but for some reason it started to get a bit painful after the first month. I started to miss her very much. I missed our relationship as well as being close to someone. Generally I didn't feel good about myself.
After about 2 months of us being apart I went along with her and a few of our mutual friends to a night club. I was slightly worried about what she'd do that night so my mind wasn't quite right. I got really hammered because I felt it would make me feel better (in the end it didn't) I ended up making out with a random girl which I regretted quite a lot. I then told her what I did at the club and she replied "It's not a big deal, I had sex with a guy last night" This immediately made me upset so I left the night club as I wasn't feeling too great.
After this, we didn't speak for about 3 or 4 weeks. We apologised to each other and made up shortly after. I told her I forgave her and she felt a little bad about it.
I then asked if she wanted to go out for coffee on the weekend to catch up. She then reluctantly replied and we agreed on a date. A few days before our date, I got very late (fairly drunken) phone call from her asking to meet up and have sex at her place. Out of impulse I said yes, and ran to her house at 12 at night.
After sex we talked about old times and we both genuinely felt really happy about ourselves. We told each other we missed each other but I don't think she was a fan of us getting back together. We met up a few days after for coffee and spoke about what we did. We both felt rather confused and didn't know if we should of regretted doing what we did. It felt so right at the time, but I don't want it to hurt her.
My question is, I really miss this girl and want her back in my life. Is there anyway I can pursued her to start things fresh without sounding desperate? It's been 3 months now since we ended and I can't stop thinking about her, this has never happened to any of my previous relationships. Many thanks.