Guys- would you date a girl that's been in a MMF threesome?

[jms31]

I've been dating this girl recently and really like her, and she also says she wants to be in a relationship with me. I'm hung up on the fact that she did this, and its so hard trying not to picture it when I'm with her, its driving me crazy. I can't perform with her sexually since I found out. She has no history of cheating, and said this was a one time fun experience that happened when she was single earlier this year that fulfilled a fantasy for her. She says I turn her on way more, and she likes me so much, etc, but feels she has nothing to apologize for since she did this before she even met me. I know I've done things in the past she doesn't like and know I'm being a hypocrite, and I want to get past this, but want to know if you guys see this as a red flag, or just the past should stay in the past? Could you guys get over this? Any help would be much appreciated.

[violet11]

I understand that this goes against what you're comfortable with, but honestly, what's easier? Meeting someone you really like, or opening your mind? It's not like she f*cked a horse. A threesome is pretty vanilla.

[Wakeup]

It's Deju Vu all over again.

To someone who has never had a threesome and would never think about crossing that boundary, a horse is a MMF equal.

[pcmaster]

I have little expierience with girls so it would be too much for me to handle this fact. Still since you find out so late and already got attached to her I suggest you trump it. Like be dominant use all holes and a bit abuse like you seen in normal porn. Once you feel dominance over her body it should be easy to forget.

You know man emotional connecion realy maters for girls. Cause thats how good sex will be since most sensitive organ in this act are brains. Realise that she couldnt had feelings for both guys as she have for you. Also having treesome doesnt matter that she was relaxed and enjoyed. 2 Guys and one girl is gay. More than one dick per pussy is gay so relax.

[Cerby]

Another one of these "she did something in her past" posts. Lets run through the basic questionnaire here:

Did she do it before she met you?
Yes

Was she honest about her past when asked?
Yes

Does it change who she is and what she SHOULD mean to you?
No

Does it change how you feel about her?
Your call


If you decide to judge someone for their past, then you'll never find peace in your relationship. Take another road with the thought, it means she is open minded and could be a LOT of fun...

[surfhb2]

Get over yourself.

Let's talk about all the stupid shit you do/have done in your past she might not like? Me personally find it kinda hot in a girl who's experimented with stuff like that

[vashti]

I think your biggest problem is that she was either dumb enough to tell you (unsolicited), or you were dumb enough to ask. Sexual History should be PRIVATE, unless it will have some sort of direct effect on you.

[anastasis]

I would go out on a limb here and say 'maybe'. It would all depend on her. It would depend on whether or not she had repented (Yes, I used that term. Deal with it.). If she had, she actually may be in a better position to begin to appreciate the tantric love weavings of Solomon's works.

In your case, she doesn't give a rip about it, which means she places no difference in one kind of act or any other kind of act. In her world, it's all just a variation on a theme. This indicates that sex in her world doesn't actually express an idea or have a meaning. It's just all one gelatinous blob of relativity. This implies that she is as likely to interpret love as hate and hate as love. She has no discernment and no sense or morality. If anything goes in her world, and her morality is absolutely relative to the whim of the moment, then there is simply no limit or bound to the depths of deprativty to which she could and would tend to sink. Her world consists of arbitrary sensory stimuli, all of which mean nothing. Sex literally 'means' nothing to her. To her it wholly consists of sensory stimuli in various frameworks. They are exciting for the moment only because they are novel. And once their novelty is extinguished, their charm soon fades. You represent that very sort of 'novel' experience that is on her sensory stimulus short list. Sex doesn't have a LOGOS or Word to it in her world, and therefore, she can have no possible concept or formulate any sort of definition for Love. Without some standard of the Reason and Meaning of the outward Motions of Love, Love in her world cannot possibly exist. And that is how you can know 100% that she cannot possibly love you. She doesn't even have the capacity for 'Love' in her state of mind, because she has no Understanding or even Concept of a definition of Love. In her world, everything is Love. But if everything is Love, then anything can be Love. Murder can be love, rape can be love, child porn can be love, beastiality can be love. Anything can and MUST go in her world because she has defined the sexual overtures of Love to be undefined and arbitrary to the whim of her animal sensorium. Because unless she knew what Love was, she could not possibly put it in to practice. She does however know what Lust is, which is the outer sensory feeling and chaos of Love having been voided out in averse unmeaning and undefinition. She is an inverted star raging against her own Meaning and her own Will to true Love, Part of her wants True Love, and part of her wants False Love, because she is cursed by her own refusal to acknowledge a Logos and Reason to Love apart from her own novelty seeking and delusional wish fulfillments. She is Babylon wandering in the Desert of Confusion and Mirage. She is the raging of ocean waves tossed here and there without any direction. She is the empty and rainless east wind blowing forever toward nowhere.

In short, she's no one you want to build a life with. Throw her to the sharks. She seems to enjoy them well enough. She can join the millions of other pieces of drift wood floating on the sea of madness to oblivion. If you stay with her, she will take you under and you will both sink like lead in the heart of the abyss of all chaos. Her mind is Destruction and Chaos incarnate. And if you remain with her, she will destroy herself, you and anyone around you that you care about. There is no Life, Light, Love or Learning within her whatsoever. She is the element of stagnant water only. She takes the shape and seeks the lowest level of anything around her that holds her. She is utterly and abjectly WORTHLESS, because she has denied all meaning and definition to that which is infinitely Worthy. She knows not the difference in Gold and Fool's Gold and would as soon settle for Fool's Gold if she can get away with it. She is as unstable as the sand of the seashore. She is as empty and dead as a seashell. And she is as undefined, restless and chaotic as seawater. To know her is to know Nothing. To hold her is to hold Nothing. To love her is to love Nothing. To converse with her is to converse with Nothing. To relate to her is to relate to Nothing. To live with her is to live with Nothing. All of her Roads lead to Nothing. For she is Nothing.

[isolde.darling]

Everybody has a past. If you feel like you really can't get over it, then tell her and move on. If you're mature and open minded enough to get past this though, then why throw away someone with true potential to make you happy? I hope you make the right decision.

[surfhb2]

I would go out on a limb here and say 'maybe'. It would all depend on her. It would depend on whether or not she had repented (Yes, I used that term. Deal with it.). If she had, she actually may be in a better position to begin to appreciate the tantric love weavings of Solomon's works.

In your case, she doesn't give a rip about it, which means she places no difference in one kind of act or any other kind of act. In her world, it's all just a variation on a theme. This indicates that sex in her world doesn't actually express an idea or have a meaning. It's just all one gelatinous blob of relativity. This implies that she is as likely to interpret love as hate and hate as love. She has no discernment and no sense or morality. If anything goes in her world, and her morality is absolutely relative to the whim of the moment, then there is simply no limit or bound to the depths of deprativty to which she could and would tend to sink. Her world consists of arbitrary sensory stimuli, all of which mean nothing. Sex literally 'means' nothing to her. To her it wholly consists of sensory stimuli in various frameworks. They are exciting for the moment only because they are novel. And once their novelty is extinguished, their charm soon fades. You represent that very sort of 'novel' experience that is on her sensory stimulus short list. Sex doesn't have a LOGOS or Word to it in her world, and therefore, she can have no possible concept or formulate any sort of definition for Love. Without some standard of the Reason and Meaning of the outward Motions of Love, Love in her world cannot possibly exist. And that is how you can know 100% that she cannot possibly love you. She doesn't even have the capacity for 'Love' in her state of mind, because she has no Understanding or even Concept of a definition of Love. In her world, everything is Love. But if everything is Love, then anything can be Love. Murder can be love, rape can be love, child porn can be love, beastiality can be love. Anything can and MUST go in her world because she has defined the sexual overtures of Love to be undefined and arbitrary to the whim of her animal sensorium. Because unless she knew what Love was, she could not possibly put it in to practice. She does however know what Lust is, which is the outer sensory feeling and chaos of Love having been voided out in averse unmeaning and undefinition. She is an inverted star raging against her own Meaning and her own Will to true Love, Part of her wants True Love, and part of her wants False Love, because she is cursed by her own refusal to acknowledge a Logos and Reason to Love apart from her own novelty seeking and delusional wish fulfillments. She is Babylon wandering in the Desert of Confusion and Mirage. She is the raging of ocean waves tossed here and there without any direction. She is the empty and rainless east wind blowing forever toward nowhere.

In short, she's no one you want to build a life with. Throw her to the sharks. She seems to enjoy them well enough. She can join the millions of other pieces of drift wood floating on the sea of madness to oblivion. If you stay with her, she will take you under and you will both sink like lead in the heart of the abyss of all chaos. Her mind is Destruction and Chaos incarnate. And if you remain with her, she will destroy herself, you and anyone around you that you care about. There is no Life, Light, Love or Learning within her whatsoever. She is the element of stagnant water only. She takes the shape and seeks the lowest level of anything around her that holds her. She is utterly and abjectly WORTHLESS, because she has denied all meaning and definition to that which is infinitely Worthy. She knows not the difference in Gold and Fool's Gold and would as soon settle for Fool's Gold if she can get away with it. She is as unstable as the sand of the seashore. She is as empty and dead as a seashell. And she is as undefined, restless and chaotic as seawater. To know her is to know Nothing. To hold her is to hold Nothing. To love her is to love Nothing. To converse with her is to converse with Nothing. To relate to her is to relate to Nothing. To live with her is to live with Nothing. All of her Roads lead to Nothing. For she is Nothing.

Oh brother !

[someguyintexas]

Wow, Anastasis has put allot of thought into the MMF situation. I applaud her, though I don't agree. Isolde is right. As you stated, you too have done things in the past that she doesn't like so why hold her past against her. Look at who she is now and how she treats you, who know maybe she will treat you to an MFF? Just saying...

[anastasis]

Wow, Anastasis has put allot of thought into the MMF situation. I applaud her, though I don't agree. Isolde is right. As you stated, you too have done things in the past that she doesn't like so why hold her past against her. Look at who she is now and how she treats you, who know maybe she will treat you to an MFF? Just saying...

The reason I have put so much thought into it is because an MMF or whore situation is exactly what is described in the tantric work of Song of Solomon. Here is one example of how one of these women turned from a Lady of Chaos into the Lady of Consolation. However, for her to do so required the Wisdom of Solomon in teaching her the secret and holistic Pathways of Love.

Is it possible? Yes. Is it common? Of course not. It's as rare as rubies.

[vashti]

Wow, Anastasis has put allot of thought into the MMF situation.

Anastasis doesn't allow for human growth, development, and maturation.

[anastasis]

Anastasis doesn't allow for human growth, development, and maturation.

You're a liar, a hypocrite and a troll.

[someguyintexas]

Rubies are no that rare, it's a semi-precisions stone. Hard to say if she has repented in her own heart though she might not regret what she has done. I have done drugs in the distant past, though I would never do them again, I do not regret the life experience it afforded me. I am not saying it's the right path for everyone, just saying that we all have things in our past we are not proud of. What a lonely world this would be if we condemned everyone based on something they did against our personal codex.