if you guys are so broke, wud u let a girl pay for the bills durin a date?

[trisha]

I cannot seem to figure out why some guys would let a girl pay for a date, e.g. in the restaurant , resort or wherever...

[Illusional]

if she's willing to pay.. then i'm willing to play.

raverboy

[trisha]

so Mr. Illusional, if you allow her to pay, does it mean you dont like her that much coz u dont care what shed gonna think about you after she paid the bill?

u dont care even if she'll think that ur such a user?

[MilkyCereal]

I cannot seem to figure out why some guys would let a girl pay for a date, e.g. in the restaurant , resort or wherever...

so Mr. Illusional, if you allow her to pay, does it mean you dont like her that much coz u dont care what shed gonna think about you after she paid the bill?

u dont care even if she'll think that ur such a user?

Why does it have to be the guy that pays all the time? Is there some kind of law that says girls can't use their own money on dates?

To answer your question, no it doesn't mean the guy doesn't like you. It means it might be the day before payday and he's too broke to splurge. It might mean he's contemplating taking you out to dinner to make you happy or paying his light bill. Stop thinking it's about you all the time and consider that maybe he has other things going on that he can't afford to pay for you to have that lobster and wine.

If you REALLY liked him, you'd be just as happy with McDonald's as you would with that fancy steakhouse. The point is not the food you eat, but the company you keep. If your relationship has to have a price tag attached, that isn't a smart investment.

[Rollerderby]

Yeah, I don't mind when a guy buys my dinner, but I always offer. Sometimes it's annoying when they accept, but for example, I went out the other night with a guy, and he picked up the check. Then we went to a bar and I bought a pitcher of quality beer for us to split. I prefer throwbacks. You pay then I'll pay. Dutch is kind of cheap, especially on dates, but girls should be able to treat too.

[trisha]

If you REALLY liked him, you'd be just as happy with McDonald's as you would with that fancy steakhouse. The point is not the food you eat, but the company you keep. If your relationship has to have a price tag attached, that isn't a smart investment.[/QUOTE]

I'll keep this in mind .... thanks so much

[McNoodle]

As a guy I feel that if at all possible the man should be the one to pay, simply because it is generally considered to be the polite thing to do (although i suppose it would depend on the culture you're from) and if I like a girl I certainly wouldn't want to be sending the wrong message. Before going out I will always make sure that I can afford to pay all the bills as well as carrying 'emergency' money for anything unexpected

[trisha]

mcnoodle, thanks rili...i hope my bf has an attitude like yours...

[Junket]

If you've already been dating him for a while, I would have assumed that by this point, you're comfortable enough alternating who pays on your outings.

Then again, I'm from America, and originally from Philadelphia (up North), chivalry is all but dead up there.

[trisha]

we're dating for about three months now, and in our culture, it's not typical for a girl to pay...

[Junket]

we're dating for about three months now, and in our culture, it's not typical for a girl to pay...

Where are you from?

I promise I won't fly over there and stalk you.

[Cain]

I pay for the first couple of dates.

After that, the girl better be coughing up some money or she can head out.

[trisha]

for cain :

well, no comment, ehehehe

[trisha]

i'm a japanese but i was raised in the philippines

[Junket]

i'm a japanese but i was raised in the philippines

Ah, I see.