^^^ Yepper!
and literally they all stay they want commitment, to settle down even kids
That doesn't mean they want to do all those things with you. It takes a lot of time and hanging out and interacting and becoming intrigued and wanting more for anyone (not just a guy) to want those things with you.
Stop giving them everything in the first month and giving them nothing to think about because they've already experienced everything they want to know about you so quickly it's easy for them to think they don't need to know anymore and then they can easily back out of what they've been having with You.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion