Complicated Complications.

[AnoTora]

So, I posted not too long ago about a guy I like, things have been slowly advancing(No relationship yet, just our friendship deepening) and I was rather happy with the pace.
Problem is, there is another guy who has my number, a few guys have my number but rarely text it (And if they do, it is only to do with work), but this guy, since the day he got my number, had been texting me basically everyday. Now, as we spoke, we found out how much we had in common, both of us aren't exactly the sanest of people, having 'issues' that other people would shun us for, basically, we could relate in the way we both had great misfortune.
Now, he was being rather open with his feelings, when he was upset or down, so I would comfort him like any good friend should, but he quickly started to tell me how I had a way that just made him feel better, something that others couldn't do. I thought this was fine, but quickly it advanced to him showering me with complements, such as being an amazing woman and so forth,
Thing is, No one had ever complimented me in such a way before, he was telling me how much he enjoyed speaking to me, and as things progressed, I recently began to realise, I'm falling for this guy. I don't know if its because no-one else has been as kind to me as him and I am just happy, or if I genuinely have fallen for him....
The first problem is... I already like someone, someone that I am sure I like, but may not accept me due to the problems I have.
The second problem is, the new guy who speaks to me everyday, told me the other day (Mentioned) he has a girlfriend. That threw me into disarray, after him telling me he had no proper friends, no one he could talk too and such,and now, I'm just not sure what to do...
He was the first one to actually ever make an effort to speak to me for no reason at all, we stayed up speaking every night till 3-4am, but now he has told me about his girlfriend he is basically not speaking to me.

I'm completely stuck right now, on what to do, or how to advance...

[smackie9]

The new guy is looking for a reason to get out of his relationhsip so he has a emotional affair with you...kinda dangling his legs over the edge but not jumping.....stay away from unavailable guys, they are a waste and won't leave their GF. He is just using you as an escape from his boring GF. Tell him to leave you alone unless he is single again.

The other guy, well you just don't know until you try.....so give him a chance and see where it goes. If it doesn't work out, oh well such as life. There are plenty more guys to meet out there....never limit yourself, always keep your options open and be realistic.....don't mess with guys that are already in a relationship.

[4 ratties]

Well if he stopped talking all of a sudden he may have just needed u for a period of time to help him get thru a rough patch and now he doesn't need you. Or his girlfriend found out and told him to quit talking to you. I could never be attracted to a guy that has a gf and is trying to get with me. It is SUCH poor character to be emotionally cheating like that. How long have they been together? Maybe he started talking to you when they broke up and he was depressed but now there back together. I mean there's so many things it could be. You'll never know If u don't ask him. I wouldn't waste time on him tho. If you like the other guy focus your energy on him. I hope u guys don't fall into the friend zone pretty soon.

[AnoTora]

I've read your posts,so thanks for replying...
Problem is, he started talking to me again late last night (Well... More of the very early morning). He said he had ran out of credit and was very apologetic.
He also began to start sending me 'x's' over text again, which I never send back anyway, but can be quite an uncomfortable thing when he then mentions his girl friend again.
As much as I would like to stop talking to him, in some ways I just couldn't bear it either, it is strange even for me.

[smackie9]

Ok just tell him straight that this isn't right, that you feel bad for his GF and this has to stop. Either he breaks up with her or you don't talk to him again simple as that.