Am I being childish? Need opinions on his mother moving in

[mollersjamers]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we cannot live together as hes American and Im Canadian, although I work 4 on 4 off, so we still spend a pretty good amount of time together, our relationship is pretty healthy from my point of view but 2 weeks ago his mother came to stay with him for a few months while she waits to get her own apartment. Our apartment is a 1 bedroom and in the winter we close up the bedroom and just put our bed in the living room, we figured she could have the bedroom and that we could still have some form of privacy and so could she. Within the first few days she was in the kitchen both day and night (open concept) so she could see us trying to go to bed etc and didnt bother to go into the bedroom, this was okay but still kind of annoying to me, but acceptable as it was the first few days. The last time I was there she threatened to call the cops on me My bf and I were drinking and in the bathroom making out because we didnt have any privacy in any other room in the house, and I fell over and she started screaming that I hit him and shes going to call he cops, that was a big red flag to me as I have never and would never hit my boyfriend, he had to take the phone from her and actually convince her that it wasnt true, so anyways that was just kind of pushed under the rug she didnt apologize and it wasnt mentioned again, I went home and things were okay between me and my bf as now I am starting to realize this probably isnt going to be good for us, so I go there after I Work my 4 days and everything i have decorated in our apartment is different, blankets over the curtains I put up, replacing the dishes I bought him for Christmas, all my things were in a basket in the bedroom, which now is locked again and she has been sleeping on the couch in the living room(right beside her 24 year old son) Am I wrong to feel like I am competing for my boyfriend? It defiantly seems to me that she is trying to push me out as quick as possible of course there is alot of other things she do and say but I have already written alot. In a way I feel like Im being childish, like its all in my head and maybe its even me? I usually try not to say much when Im there now as I just dont feel very comfortable but Im not rude about, I have always been shy. I now feel like I am a guest in my own house, and that its her & him now.

[Boisdevie]

Tell your BF to decide - her or you. In such a small space I wouldn't stand for it. Or just tell him no sex till she's gone. Put your foot down.

[Wakeup]

What does you being Cdn and him American have to do with not being able to live together? (then you go on to say "our apartment???" ) Are you saying that you live here and he lives there in HIS apartment and has invited his mother to stay with him? .. this is a long distance relationship?

You can't live together anyway so you say so just have him to your home instead of you going to his and his mother's. If it's long distance it's likely not going last all that long anyway. Particularily if neither of you plans on advancing the relationship.