Have I blown it and lost her?

[cliche1]

Hi. Well this is the story:

I was on my way back from a night out on a night bus home in the early hours of new years day. And I somehow got talking to this beautiful lady, after half hour we went our seperate ways having swapped numbers....for the folowing few days we spoke efvery day, via whatsapp and on the phone until the early hours, and a connection and chemistry was really forming.

We agreed on a date, and she started to tell me she thought I was really sweet, and amazing, and she loves the idea that shes met a fellow hopeless romantic.

On Wednesday we had the date, and it was mindblowing, it was the best date I have ever had, we had a meal and went to the cinema. Conversation was flowing and when we settled into the ciname we just took one look at each other and shared an earth-moving kiss. We then hugged up, weatched the film and walked back to the tube station hand in hand, hugging and kissing as we went seperate ways.

Since then conversation has continued. she told me that she feels she can trust me to take care and look after her, and that I am an amazing guy, and that the kiss we shared was amazing, and that it took her breath away.

Last night we was on the phone and talking and she seemed happy with how things were going, to just see how it goes, that we both had slight apprehensions dur to previous expereinces.

We then had a few back and forths on whatsapp later that night in which I said I wouldd protect her from wasps and spiders, her biggest fears.

This morning, I then followed on and told her I would care for her and look after her and all that, I may have gone a bit carried away, and lo and behold shes turned around and said she felt i came on abit too strong, made her think twice about our upcoming date on tuesday and doesnt think we should meet on tuesday, which we was starting to plan last night, I've acknowledged that i've said too much, that i got carried away as I had not met a girl and promised to her i'd wind it in....and thanked her for her honesty, but all she said was "openness and honesty - its what I stand by" and i told her that I'm still looking forward to getting to know her, that I will keep the over exuberance in check, that she knows she csn tell em anything, good or bad, and i've left it in her hands about tuesday, saying I just want to take the time to get to know her. I havent heard back from her yet, but I know shes read them, albeit only an hour ago.

Have I blown it, I feel really down, upset with myself, and not sure whatt to do next? How can I maintain the connection and chemistry, or have I blown it for good? I hope not as I really like this girl, and thought she felt the same about me.I really feel so down today since this morning and feel scared to do or say anything. I'm such an idiot!

[smackie9]

She got a little scared that is all, possible trust issues. So stop acting like a love sick wuss and stop contacting her. Be cool, aloof, and distant. Make yourself less available....this will make you more desirable. Don't get sucked into those conversation where you have to prove you will do everything for her...that is where most guys make the mistake. Girls do prefer a guy that have to work for to get his attention. So back off and let her come to you. If it doesn't work out, you have learned a valuable lesson.

***you never know, she might have felt you were just telling her what she wants to hear to get approval......big turn off.

[cliche1]

Thanks Smackie, shes told me she is really big on conversation and hates when guys goes distant on her or start in her words, playing games, shes big on communication and even yesterday was initiating conversation....the night before last she was messaging me that she wants to lie next to me and kiss me all night, then the next morning before I got a chance to respond she messages me with good morning honey....I know she went out with some friends last night, do you reckon they got into her head? she did say she didnt like that i told people about her, but I only told my 2 best friends.

[smackie9]

She sound insecure. Funny how she says she doesn't like others playing games, BUT she is doing it herself. I still say keep a little aloof, as you can see by not responding, she's trying to get your attention. So don't listen to what she tells you, go by her actions.

[AnErin]

Flakes are a dime a dozen these days. Epidemic. We can probably thank stuff like texting and FB for that.
Flakes play games, cancel out, think everyone says or does the wrong thing etc..
Then they wonder why everyone gives up on them.

With this girl, no matter what you do, it is going to be wrong. If things go south, it is not your fault.

[surfhb2]

What EXACTLY did you say to make her think you came in too strong? Be honest

[searock]

I don't think she's playing games, she just got a bit put off by your over-exuberance as you put it. Just don't contact her anymore, the ball is in her court now. It's up to her to decide whether to contact you again or to let it go. You can just wait and hope at this point. If she does contact you, make sure you are open and honest but also that you don't get carried away by your infatuation. If she does not contact you, move on with no regrets, you simply weren't compatible.

[smackie9]

", I've acknowledged that i've said too much, that i got carried away as I had not met a girl and promised to her i'd wind it in.."

How much experience/relationships have you had?