desperate, please help me

[Reynoldsfrank]

Hey everyone, I'm desperate for help. I haven't even come close to even kissing a woman for the past 4 years. Just nothing ever works. If I go up to someone randomly, she'll either dismiss me immediately or if she seems interested in the least, the phone number won't work or she won't answer. I don't know if I'm ugly, creepy, boring or what. I have friends and I'm a nice person but I'm just never seen as a sexual interest. Please help

[smackie9]

Ask your friends for help for they know you best. Find one that will give you their honest opinion, and maybe some suggestions on what to do.

[Rowen]

Dear Frank,

It is difficult to help you without knowing more about you. Are you very shy? have you made some attempts and have been rejected and got discouraged thinking there is something wrong with you? How old are you really?
In any case past is past, and it doesn't have to determine the future, you can change anything if you want, you just have to know where to start.
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From what you are telling it seems you are this type of very nice person, maybe too nice and when you are always available, always helpful, too transparent, women might take you for granted. Attraction needs some tension, otherwise you will just be perceived as an eternal friend...

Get off this site you ****ing troll.

And OP, it may just be because you haven't gotten close enough to the right woman yet. I'm not sure, but I agree you should go to your friends about this.

[basilandthyme]

I'd be very unlikely to accept a date from a random stranger, so I think your approach needs to change. I've only ever dated one random - and that's waaaay back when I was 17 and wasn't so good at putting off random men.

You're better off approaching women who you have something in common with. For example, a friend of a friend at a party. Or someone from your sports club/gym...or whatever hobbies you have. And don't rush asking for a date. Get some type of rapport happening before you ask about exchanging phone numbers.

[basilandthyme]

Rowen, are you OK?!...you seem to be having quite some issues troubling you..... or maybe not enough s*x lately?! Chill out man, life is short, being so angry from nothing is going to shorten your life expectancy. take it as a friendly advice from a stranger.

It's not Rowen who's the problem: Spammers simply aren't welcome here. If you've got great advice, please give it without spruiking your products.

Have reported your initial post to the mods.

[lovecoach4u]

Thanks for letting me know was not aware of that.

[Reynoldsfrank]

Well I'm 22 and in college. I keep trying to approach women, not necessarily trying i ask for a date or anything but they are always unresponsive. I've been told I'm too transparent and too nice, but that's who I am and people always say to be yourself so I'm torn. I literally went to class yesterday and sat down with a random girl, introduced myself and literally didn't say a word. I've been given fake numbers on multiple occasions and I just don't know what to do. The only things I can think of is that I'm either incredibly ugly or incredibly boring and I have no idea how to fix either one.

[Rowen]

Rowen, are you OK?!...you seem to be having quite some issues troubling you..... or maybe not enough s*x lately?! Chill out man, life is short, being so angry from nothing is going to shorten your life expectancy. take it as a friendly advice from a stranger.

My problem is you, you ****ing twit. Go advertise somewhere else. As for my personal life, stay the **** out; you don't know me like the others on here.

[Reynoldsfrank]

Well it happened again last night. I was at a party talking to this girl. Things seemed to be going well and then I go to get a beer and she's making out with some other guy. I'm really at wits end here. Please help me

[smackie9]

You should have had the confidence to make a move, but you waited too long, some other dude had np doing it. Girls are more perceptive to a guy that shows that he sexually wants her, with body language, eye contact, saying how she turns him on, is hot, has to restrain himself, etc. All very bold confident behavior that woman find attractive in that kind of environment (alcohol).

[Reynoldsfrank]

Okay I know I need the confidence to do so, but I'm not sure when to initiate that. I don't want to be that creep that goes in too soon and then I'm done, ya know

[smackie9]

Watch, observe how other guys do it. Get tips from your buddies.