Dont know what to do

[narasect]

There's this girl from calculus that I met last semester that I found very attractive. I started sitting by her thinking that I might get to know her. Luckily she started all of the conversations at the beginning of every lecture with multiple questions and lots of hi's. We were sitting by each other for two months and she never mentioned her boyfriend until we started sitting right next to each other. when she first mentioned him, she was looking right at me to see what my reaction would be and I felt devastated and she saw that; however, I had my own trump card and told her that I had a girlfriend and she seemed to react the same. The more I got to know her, the more she started connecting to me on an emotional level, she even started getting mean when I asked her certain things about schoolwork? So I started pushing myself away from her and I even switched desk. She called me a pussy in front of the class and I was so damn embarrassed that I got up and sat right next to her to make her shut up. I even liked what happened, and she got all quiet that day. Shes 18 and im 22, shes smart and I hope god damn she knows what shes doing because now I am in my second semester in computer class with her again. However, whatever I do, every action, every word, every gesture seems to be hurting her. I have to prepare with what I have to say to her by the next lecture. I feel like true love will come to me, yes im a guy.. I don't believe that I could be the one to make the first move with any girl. All the girls in my life have always made their first move towards me. HELP PLEASE.

She started sitting where I sit and is always staring at me when I walk into class " like shes hopping that i'll show up". Anyway I added her on facebook and she immediately accepted it. I thought it was a good sign of attractiveness. But things are going in a loop. I just dont understand, she never talks about her boyfriend to me, even when I walk her to her car. She asked me to study once, and followed by another "invitation" to a party but i think she lied about that. So during our computer lab, she started flirting with my buddy, touching her hair a lot and asking him questions about the lab answers. I get so jealous that I put both of them down. So I messaged her at 5:30 am telling her that I was sorry for being rude, and she replied with "its okay, we all have those days".. I know my buddy has no game in flirting because he looks like hes using lines from movies, Lol. I don't talk to her lot too ( I feel like a creep) , I mostly just avoid her and let her do the talking because honestly its draining me inside. Now she just jumps into my conversations with my buddy and corrects everything I say wrong... its like her way of talking to me now.

Also she's always touching me or tapping my legs with her feet. I just dont understand where I stand in all this. She even liked the same quoted relationship on facebook which I found awkward, so I messaged her right away and she completely ignored me this time? She even played it cool during the next class like it never happened. I wonder if shes in lust with me or is completely lost with what she wants. I always try to portrait myself in her future, because I want to finish university alone or with someone who actually cares about life. Shes very talkative to other men and yet she puts up this barrier of quietness when I walk with her. There are only a few boys that I know she talks to and is mostly conversations about her boyfriend. Its like, back in calculus we were more like "friends" being funny and outgoing. Now it seems like were fighting like animals. I want to be on good terms with her but I seem to be just hurting her now with whatever I say. This sucks a lot because I really do see myself with this intelligent beautiful woman. What makes this relationship special is her faithfulness to be near me and her way of communicating to me in every lecture. Shes a real keeper. I just dont know how to get around this ? Also her boyfriend is going to another university, but is still under decision. I'm not afraid of him either, and im not even sure if he knows about me.

Guys, is there something im missing? Am I doing something wrong talking to a girl in a relationship? should I move on or play the waiting game. Honestly, we dont even make jokes or talk about ourselves. Its mostly small talk about random events in life (what she enjoys talking), yet I just question her about school and how she is doing.. I can come off way to charming and i think thats what throws her off and she goes into quite mode. I hope this is just my imagination that she likes me. Or she is looking to bang ( which im not into ), yet she doenst seem to be that type of person; however her boyfriend is a hockey player and most of the people she follows on twitter are hockey players. She told me she doenst like how hockey players are? shes lying? I just hope shes not a slu... she looked like a nerd when she was younger.. she took a lot of advanced courses for her age too.. I just dont know what to do. Could I be the biggest tool in her life? she's been chasing for my friendship for 2 months, and now that were "talking" shes attacking me with random impulses about random shit with what I say. If she doesnt like what I say, why is she still putting up with me. I would rather her have delete me from facebook and have her sit where she was first sitting in computer class so she could be happy or whatever her case was. Now I started liking other girls pictures taking selfies on facebook. I hope she gets the message this time. She also believes to know who I really am, and its scary because I can go on flames and tell her exactly how much I like her for this reason.

[smackie9]

This girl or any other girl in her position isn't worth your time. When you don't invest your feelings, it enables you to score with someone else who really wants to be with you. Never ever "wait" for a girl. She isn't a forsure thing so you need to stop playing stupid games and move on.

Next time you see a girl you like ASK HER OUT. It's very competitive out there so if you hum and haw about it, some other dude will swoop in and snatch her up. Grow some balls you are 22, an adult, you should be past this high school crap by now.

She did call it when she called you a _ussy.

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What to do? delete her off FB, and go ask one of those other girls out on a date.

[Boisdevie]

I just love these college kids. They take inept to a whole new level. Jeez, by 24 I was married with a child. OP sounds barely out of nappies.

[smackie9]

Good god why is there so much fear in asking someone to a movie these days?

[narasect]

Good god why is there so much fear in asking someone to a movie these days?

She has a boyfriend. How could i possibly go up to her and ask her to the movies ?

[basilandthyme]

I'm not sure what advice you're looking for

[narasect]

I'm not sure what advice you're looking for

I know right? i'm pretty much stuck with this situation until the semester is over... I hate certain things about life sometimes. Lol.

[basilandthyme]

Stuck? Rubbish.

You're 'fighting like animals' and she has a boyfriend! If this isn't permission to ignore her, block her on social media and move on, I don't know what is.

[Boisdevie]

I know right? i'm pretty much stuck with this situation until the semester is over... I hate certain things about life sometimes. Lol.

You're in a shitty situation of your own making. When I target a woman I first like to check that she's single. I find it helps unecessary bullshit. Why not try it?

[michelle23]

You should have avoided her from the minute you found out shes got a bf. Now you have just wasted time investing feelings in an attention whore who is emotionally unavailable. Shes just messing with your head. Plus shes only 18. Theres a big difference between an 18 year old and a 22 year old. 99% of 18 year olds dont have a clue what they want and there not ready for a real relationship. Stay away from her and move on already. Theres plenty of single girls around

[narasect]

You should have avoided her from the minute you found out shes got a bf. Now you have just wasted time investing feelings in an attention whore who is emotionally unavailable. Shes just messing with your head. Plus shes only 18. Theres a big difference between an 18 year old and a 22 year old. 99% of 18 year olds dont have a clue what they want and there not ready for a real relationship. Stay away from her and move on already. Theres plenty of single girls around

This is what I am expecting to read. I dont know why this girl is chasing my ass and making friends with mine. Seriously, now I have to avoid everyone in class and act like a complete creep run a way boy. Lol, Damn this is the saddest life that anyone can really have. BTW, I was walking back to my car two days ago and she was parked right beside me. Like wtf lol? I guess this is part of her phucking with my head. Im glad i phucked with her first to get her thinking. Oh well. Im passed all this now. If i could do anything, i would just bang her and leave her. Welcome to the mindset of a boy.

[HeartIsAching]

You should have avoided her from the minute you found out shes got a bf. Now you have just wasted time investing feelings in an attention whore who is emotionally unavailable. Shes just messing with your head. Plus shes only 18. Theres a big difference between an 18 year old and a 22 year old. 99% of 18 year olds dont have a clue what they want and there not ready for a real relationship. Stay away from her and move on already. Theres plenty of single girls around

This. Seriously.

The fact that she'd call you a pussy in class in front of everybody because you weren't giving her the attention she wants makes it obvious... she's an attention whore. She doesn't want you, she wants the attention you give her.

Cut the crazy bitch loose.

Heh... it'll probably make her REALLY crazy. Enjoy messing with HER head for a while.

[michelle23]

Most 18 year old girls are like her. DRAMA. Just stay away from her. Theres no point plotting to hurt her coz she knocked your ego. That is your problem coz you let her mess with your head. She will grow up in time-just let her be