complications in relationship - need advice urgently

[rish]

hi everyone,i m in a very complex situation right now, i dnt know how to start here it goes


mam i am dealing with a situation like...i have a very beautiful girlfriend from past 3 years...we r in a relationship..it worked well...but from past years we r in a distant relationship as i came to delhi...she is beautiful by heart,caring loves me like hell and fr her its like i m only her first and last...
i m close to her family too,her family accepts me...my family knws everything from the very first day but dnt accept her as they think its nt the ryt tym to me to be in a relation , its time to focus only on my career...


now here frm the very first day in amity i have had a grp of people i live with...

n their this girl renukka...came as a special gift to me...a very good friend...timely it strenghthened our bond...we became very close chatted , talked on phn fr an hour or so...

we discussed everything in each others life (she to had a distant relationship but at the verge of end)...but suddenly due to change in sitting plan or something she isolated me as a very close friend...she stopped talking to me...as her chats increased to the person sitting beside her (mihir) now i told her that luk mihir is causing gap between us...cant u see...she didnt gave a damn and continued sitting with him talking with n her attention frm me passed to him...we fought every other day...n i thot y is this happening to me...she is just a very good friend or maybe because she is the only one i m close to in amity

den it went like frm september n so on...mihir was competing me...on winning her or so...she knew it...

then i said her once that i dnt knw what is happening to me...but it never happened in past 3 cases in my past...

she said we r just friends maybe its a crush...then after fights n this long gap aur den back to nrml...we fought badly again over the same reason...involving mihir leading to my isolation then she told that she is relationship with mihir...

she broke up with her ex few mnths back n mihir was the only person cheering her n i was making her unhappy n irritating her...

den i stopped n didnt contacted my grp sat alone fr long 10-12 days..n one day she tuk me out cnfrnted n said sorry n that we cant act strangers...

then i dnt knw we were close again...but srsly i cant focus on my gf...i even confronted her that i love renukka...she cried a lot...n she said she will do suicide...or something...but its nt natalie (my gf's) mistake...its my mistake...n srsly i dnt know how can i ignore mihir n renukka seeing together getting cozy...

n i cant concentrate on my relationship... i m need of desperate help...


i have tried so many ways to get over this thing...to get over this obsession with her...but is impossible to do so..pls guide me pls help...i m ruining my life n dont know what to do

[CrasherRob8]

In a nutshell you and your current gf are in a long distance relationship. You and this other girl started talking and you have feelings for her but she is with someone else.

Break it off with your current gf, most likely she is threatening suicide to keep you with her and that's not healthy at all for either of you.