I've been out at bars and I see some guys looking but they eventually do not come over and talk to me. But if I have a guy sit next to me and I start a conversation it seems to turn them off. I am thinking because you guys like to make the first move or I'm dong soemthing wrong. Obviously you are curious at least a little if I catch you looking at me or come sit with me. But you say nothing. Shy maybe? Just frustrating. Also where do guys go on Friday nights to meet girls? I'm in my 40s and jumping backin after a long break. Any advice would help?