Should I stay in this relationship or go back to dating?

[smedly]

Hi Everyone

So early last year I got out of a long term relationship and returned to the dating game. I was having lots of fun but then met someone who I genuinely liked and wanted to see more and more. We went on lots of dates and decided we wanted to be exclusive (we have been dating since Nov, in a relationship from Jan). I fully committed to this girl before I went away travelling for 6 weeks, so I clearly thought she was worth it. She is in her last year studying for medicine so is busy, and I am busy setting up a new bar, so we knew what we had signed up for. She has also found out that she will be moving away in August for work (something else we both knew would happen when we got together).

Anyways, I'm struggling to decide whether this is worth carrying on. I find that I have to put in a lot of effort for her to see me (we are both busy, but I make it a priority to make time for her), I respect that she has a lot of work to do but I seem a low priority for her. She has also decided to go home for 2 weeks to study rather than stay here and just go to the library, whilst she can still see me. And again, I respect she needs to do whats best for her to study, but I feel I need more out of a relationship. When we are together we have a great time and I really like this girl, should I just press on and appreciate that she is at an important stage in her studies and see how it continues, or shall I admit defeat and get back on the dating game?

In addition, we haven't talked about whether we will continue once she moves away. So am I wasting my time on something that may only last another 4 months? I personally see this girl as long term, should I have "the chat" and say If this is going the stretch then I can deal with not seeing her much, or if it's only a "fling" until August then call it a day?

Any advice would be much appreciated!

[smackie9]

Sure you can have a chat, BUT are you really going to look at the big picture rather than having your emotions dictate your decision? Not sure if it will make a difference if she shifts her schedule around a bit...it's the fact she will be leaving that you should be your main concern.

You are not having your needs met, she has different priorities, no sense in waiting for the inevitable. You don't want to be in too deep, and hurt even more when you already know she is going away.....now it's an LDR, something you don't want.

Best of luck in your chat.