Hi people!
I need some help with my current relationship.
I've been with my G/F for allmost 6 months, and i love her very much, and i (currently) want to spend my future with her - just so that is clear to everyone ;-)
Another thing: i am a insecure person due to experiences in my past, which is probably why i'm even in here asking you this question.
Recently, i've been experiencing some "issues" in my relationship, mostly regarding the time i spend with my G/F.
In the beginning, everything was fun and new and exciting for us, and we were both very much in love. Now, after 5-6 months, things have slowly begun to change.
Instead of having a fun time constantly, trying new stuff together, and getting to know each other intimately, we've kinda "settled", but not in an extremely good fashion.
It feels like we've lost some of our spark. I seem to have lost my ability to make her laugh, and she generally seems a little less into the things we do together, like she's just taking it for granted. It's like i've told her all my stories and she's "seen through me" in a way that just makes me think that everything i do or say is uninteresting for her because she's expecting it.
Unfortunately, this makes me feel extremely insecure and awkward around her, because i'm constantly trying to come up with funny or interesting things to talk with her about, and because i compare myself with all the other guys around me who seem to make their G/F's laugh & have fun much more than i do. I'm afraid she's getting bored with me, so i "overcompensate", but it's not effective.
She tells me she loves me, and she's making plans for our future (travels, events, our 1-year anniversary etc.) but sometimes it just feels "forced" and like she's just doing it because it's what is expected.
She tells me that no one can compare to her, and that i'm the one for her (she even told me she wants a family with me one day).
I don't know what to do, i really want us to get some of the spark back in our relationship, to make her not just take me for granted and perhaps put a little more effort into the relationship.
But i don't know how - so please... Advice! :-)
LAST POINT: please don't tell me to "jump ship" or go out and **** other girls. I'm interested in making this work with her, not just abandoning our relationship first time a problem arises. I love her! :-)