lost "spark"

[shadesoftruth]

hey guyssss....i could really use some help with this one!

so i started seeing this guy around feb. we hit it off great...laughing, constant texting, talking til 4am...the whole 9 yards. we're so compatible and so comfortable with each other. ive never experienced that level of compatibility with anyone and he says he hasn't either. we both thought we were on the road to a serious longterm relationship. (we even talked about it the first couple of weeks together).

so fast forward a couple of weeks and things started to die down...i started to feel him distancing. we sat down and talked about it. he says he doesnt feel the urge for me anymore...sexually. the sex is great and i turn him on no problem...he says its just no urge cause the "spark's" no longer there. we've only been together for like a month or so...but it's like we're an old married couple.

so we've "broken up" once already...but quickly got back together cause we missed each other. but the spark is still lost. now we're stuck...we love spending time together and talking to each other but without the spark..i don't know what to do. neither of us want to let go cause we still like each other and love being together...but we both know long term it wont work.

has anyone been in the same situation before or just some general advice on what to do? can you rekindle a "spark"?

[VincenzoG91]

I'm guessing that you two are young. The spark is an elusive sensation that you can't realistically sustain over the course of a long-term relationship. It's the giddy sensation of two people on their best behavior having fun together, and you lose that when you get to know each other well. You can waste the rest of your life on short-term relationships, endlessly chasing the spark, or you can start appreciating what can follow the spark, the warm glow of a solid, happy relationship together. Understand that the warm glow doesn't come easy, you will need to maintain good quality communication, along with trust, respect and teamwork.

[shadesoftruth]

thanks for the reply!

i mean i understand sparks dont last..and compatibility is for the long haul. i know its natural to lose that spark in a longterm relationship...but we've only been together for 2 months! is that normal??