Okay so I'm writing this as an update to my previous thread as an update...
Basically the guy (Mr A) I was seeing for a little while broke up with me. At the time I really felt a connection with him and the break up was one of the hardest I have ever experienced. We decided to stay friends and communicated in a purely friendly capacity until he found out I was dating another guy. At this stage he suggested that we become friends with benefits. I toyed with the idea and as my new relationship wasn't going anywhere, I broke up with him and we started FWB with MR A.
We have been FWB for the past month. However it isn't a case of turning up, having sex and going. We have been treating each other like a couple would. Better than before and more flirty and honest than ever.
The unfortunate enviable has occurred however and I have now fallen in love with Mr A. I have never felt this way about another guy. He is all I think of, I get anxious when I'm not with him and I have the highest highs when I speak to him and when I am with him. He's like an addiction... I want nobody but him. I cry thinking about it. Today we were together, I approached the issue. I said that he is all that I think about and I was being to really like him (I avoided using love him afraid of scaring him off) him. I therefore told him that I needed time to think the fwb situation over, as I don't want to continue with it and get hurt when he calls it a day. As I won't be able to stay friends if I fall anymore. However the problem is I can't stay friends with him anyway as I genuinely love him and I would continue with the feb situation to have a relationship with him, regardless of how superficial it is. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship yet and that the decision about what we do and the capacity of how we continue...
I now need advice on how to continue. Do I tell him how badly I have it for him. If it's destined to fail... Should it not be due to me being honest with him. Overall I want a relationship with him. I'm a determined person and I know I won't give up on him. But I just need people who have experience in this area/ past fwb relationships and impartial help on this.
Thank you x