So Discouraged

[Onion]

Here's my situation; "meat and potatoes version sort of"

Started dating a woman. We dated for 4-5 months, we stopped dating but towards the end she said that I seemed to be to emotionally involved and that she couldn't give me what I wanted.

We texted off and on afterwards.

6 months later we started dating again. This time it felt different, I was on top of the world. 4 months into it one morning as I had spent the night but needed to get out of her place since she has kids at home, I asked her to be my girlfriend as I left her place. I didn't press her for answer. About a week afterwards she asked for a break and space, I was spending more and more time and staying overnight. One part of me knew she would feel smothered but the other part just wanted to be with her.

About 1 week later I sent her an email simply stating that I felt that she should just let me know if she wanted to continue this as I didn't want to wait to find out down the line. Two days later we got together and we talked, she said that we enjoyed my company, she liked me, she wanted to continue seeing me, she wasn't looking to meet anyone else, she wasn't interested in meeting anyone else but what we had she didn't see it going any further then what it currently was. She wanted to be with me but not be my girlfriend. Fast forward about a week after that night, I send her a text, she replied back and asked if I wanted to come over. Problem was I didn't have my phone with me (gym) when she replied. I replied the next day but no response. I sent her a text that weekend and got a reply back saying that I should consider dating other people because she couldn't give me what I wanted.

Now the fact that she said that to me via text really disappointed me. I asked if we could talk about it, 2 days later we did. She said that she was going thru issues and thats why she needed space, and that I just want everything so fast.
I asked if she still wanted to see me, she said no, she asked if we could still be friends I said no.
I said no because the "can we be friends" is just a way to soften the blow, I'd rather cut all ties, especially since she ended it via text. Which is very cowardly...

This 2nd time around it lasted approx 6 months.

4 months after we stopped seeing each other I sent her a text saying that I missed her, she replied saying I was a good guy but it just was what it was.

Now the 5th month since we stopped dating I still want to pursue this woman. What the hell is wrong with me.... I even wrote a text saying that I still want to see her although I haven't sent it.

I have dated almost immediately after we stopped and currently dating another woman but man wtf is wrong with me....

Onion

[smackie9]

We desire most what we can't have. You need to completely cut off all contact, delete any numbers, etc. Don't worry, you will get over her, there will be someone out there that will be on the same page as you. You can't expect miracles and meet someone right away. Just keep dating, and enjoy your single life.