I was wondering if anyone could provide some input,
Six years ago the girl I was dating decided to break the relationship and move away. Since then. I married and got divorced a year and half ago. She also married and now has two children ages 4 and 2. Out of the blue she reaches out about two months ago. I was genuinely surprised but was happy to hear form her. I of course wondered why, I asked if she was happy and if everything was ok. She stated that the relationship has it problems as any would, but that she is happy. She contacts me almost every other day via email or texting, always late at night, sometimes these sessions go on until 3 am in the morning.
She has stated several times, that she only reached out to see if I was ok since it has been so long and that she wants or expect nothing from me. Little by little, she has mentioned things that lead to believe there is more to the story and her situation. Although she does not go into details. She tells me that she left because if was never going to marry her but blames me for moving on. That she only got married because she got pregnant, that they are mere roommates and that she does not feel loved. That she feels stuck because she does not work and that I was the love of her life. One of her comments was that she wished I was there to rub her belly when she was pregnant. Which totally broke be down.
I have provided her with guidance out of respect for her marriage, told her she needed to seek a counselor and work out the issues on her marriage and make decisions based on what she already knows to be true. I do still have feelings for her, the fact that she is hurting makes me feel awful but I want provide the proper guidance.
Can anyone provide any guidance on why she reach out now? What her motives may be? What it her mental state is? Are these the sign of an unhappy marriage or the just issues that arise in a marriage with 2 young children? Her realization of what marriage actually is?
Any advice is helpful, thanks you.