I don't think its a symptom either. Its up to you what you do op but you're young and there are enough women out there that aren't confused about what kind of genitals they need to survive so why don't you do yourself a favour and find one that is more like yourself and is only interested in the opposite sex?
You two are completely incompatible on a core level and you'll now need to ask yourself how will you ever trust her again?
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion