As I wrote in my other post, my fiancee and I are currently on the rocks over stress and losing the spark.
Over the past 2 weeks I've had a million questions and a million potential answers about what happened, where this came from, and how it can be fixed.
Like I wrote earlier, part of the breakdown (I think) was that I set absolute boundaries on her drug use (marijuana). I never told her she couldn't smoke (cigarettes), but I was also to the point in saying that she should quit eventually. (And she did, for over 15 months, until our break up.)
How does someone work at setting boundaries without falling into a parent-child relationship? Should I say she's free to do what she wants, or is there a middle ground we could both live with?