I tried to apologize for giving up on our friendship

[thunderheart57]

Back in 1989 I fell in love with her. We were good friends and then we couldn't stop following each other around. I said it first. I love you. but she said she could only be friends. I stopped seeing her and eventually I got married and raised a family. I am now divorced and I have yearned for her all of this years. I saw her back in 2005 and she got very emotional when she saw me. we talked for about 45 minutes and I tried to apologize for giving up on our friendship she got up and ran away from me. very upset ????????

I wonder why. any ideas

[TheEvilJester]

It sounds like you were very good friends. That can be very important to people. Sometimes almost as important as a romantic relationship. Sometimes even more important.

How did you end your friendship with her? Did you sort of just fade away, or did you actually talk to her and explain it? Either way, it is likely that losing you as a friend hurt her very much. Still, if you wanted a relationship with her and couldn't see remaining just friends, then you really did the right thing for you and for her by ending the friendship. Still, there are right and wrong ways to do that. So, hopefully you handled it well. Even if you did, though, losing a friend is very likely going to hurt. The closer you were to the friend, the more important the friendship was to you, the more it is going to hurt.

So, it is possible it just opens new wounds for her. If what you are asking is does it mean she is interested in you as more than friends now... It is most likely that she is probably not. She told you once she only saw you as a friend and women don't usually tend to change their minds about that. It is POSSIBLE, mind you, but just not likely.

I suppose you could try to re-establish a friendship with her and see how that goes. But, based on her reaction, it may be possible that she cannot and/or will not be able to renew that friendship. Anyways, good luck my friend.