My ex boyfriend from October 2008-April 2010 told me today that I am his best friend. At first I was shocked and wondered why but before I was able to ask him why he said that, he told me I will always have a special place in his heart because I was his first love, the first person he truly cared about in a relationship. I was confused why he was telling me that because before he said that he said he gave the girl he liked a promise ring. He thinks this girl is the one for him for the rest of his life. In my opinion they aren't right for each other, I am only judging that from what he tells me about her. It seems like she doesn't want to be with him but doesn't have the heart to break it off for good. she already broke up with him once for another guy, then broke up with that guy because she didn't know who she wanted to be with, my ex almost got her pregnant (he claims it was protected, i'm not judging a situation I do not know facts on) but it was a false alarm, she wasn't talking to him, my ex got depressed and almost crashed his car on purpose, yeah. he told me all of that one night.
Plus he told me that this girl and him are not official and he admitted to me that he thinks him and I have good sex ( I admit we did have sex after we broke up a few times) but now he says I owe him (sex)for his birthday because I did the past 3 years, yet I feel like I cant do that if he gave the girl a promise ring even though they aren't officially together. Even if I did its always protected. Plus, he told me about 2 hours ago they got into a fight and haven't spoke in 3 days. They argue a lot and its not good making him feel depressed and stuff. I always tell him that its not worth it and he should find someone else who would care about him. I honestly think she doesn't care about him and the photos he shows me she doesn't even look happy. The one he showed me today, she actually looked like she was drunk or annoyed to be taking a photo with him, but who am I to judge someone I never met?
is this "you were my first true love who I really cared about, you hold a special place in my heart, and your my best friend" a lie or just some type of cr*p to keep me in the picture just to keep talking to me? I don't think we would ever get back together due to some things that happened in the past after we broke up (not with us persay but with things that happened between my family and him and now my aunt dislikes, more on the hate side, him and everyone who basically was friends with him dislikes him). I kind of told him he was my best friend too and that you can never forget your first true love in life, its just impossible and yeah 4 years later I still think about him.... i'm 21 now and he is 23