That was perfect.I'm not a women, but sounds like Boring vs Interesting. 'Nice Guy' gets thrown around a lot and so does 'Jerk', but do you know what that really means?
'Nice Guy' - Worships the ground a female walks on, puts them on a pedestal and pretty much is there at a woman's call. You're being "nice" the way grandma taught you to woo a girl (but that only works in Asian cultures like Japan where this is the norm and expected). Imagine for a second if you were being treated this way. Kind of gets annoying doesn't it to have 6 texts a day, someone always agree with you and always checking to make sure you are ok or happy with a decision rather than just making one and leading them along etc etc. Clingy to your presence and always paying for everything... Almost seems like the person is trying to buy you out with other things because just their company alone isn't enough to solidify the relationship. Every guy starts this way, and every man learns it's not the way to do it. Put a little back bone in you and stand up for yourself, and learn that it's ok to say "No, I'm busy". The nice guy generally finishes last because he does all the things every guy always does and doesn't entertain women for very long before they move on.
Nice Guys think they are being gracious and giving a woman what they want. What they actually do is make women incredibly uncomfortable by paying for expensive dinners that make them say "oh god another one of these guys, he wants to get me in bed and now I have some kind of obligation because he's buying me all these things - how do I get out of this". It's a weird symptom of societies twist on relationships.
'Jerk' - A jerk is not yet a man, but not a nice guy. Generally a Jerk has all the qualities that appeal to women without any of the characteristics that would otherwise make them a man. They haven't yet figured out that they can treat their lady like a lady that feels loved and appreciated while also still maintaining his ability to do all the things that make him a man and thus got the woman's interest in the first place. The Jerk his own hobbies, his own friends, and he'd rather spend time with them than the girl. He doesn't worship a woman but puts her on generally lower ground instead, which is worse imo. It's like the reverse of the nice guy where the girl is always seeking the approval of the man rather than the Nice guy that's trying to get approval of the girl. These are the ones that break hearts horribly and do all sorts of heinous things that the 'Nice guy' would "never do to a girl ever".
'Man' - Confident and comfortable in his own skin. Does what he wants most of the time because that's how he is, and invites a women into his world, rather than scrounging to get in theirs. Doesn't sweat the little things, moves slowly and has a "leader of the pack" type of mentality. He's busy, important - or at least conveys that he is - and occupied most of the time with things that are important to him outside of the relationship. He takes women along for the ride without seeking their approval, but treats a women with respect and love. He makes his woman feel special, but never clamors after them like a nice guy does typically - which makes that feeling of the girl being special to him all the more rewarding and exciting. It's a mix of the Jerk and the Nice guy that has matured, and I reckon every women is looking for, but never really finds. They do exist though, try and be one it will help.
Hope that helps a little